Demi Burnett
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
We're going to make it happen. I'm really happy alone, too. So it's OK. Like I'm fine with my standards being high because like I'm actually I can't wait to go home so I can play Fortnite with my friends. You know what I mean? Like that's all I'm waiting for. And when I called you, you were playing for me. I can't stop. I told you, I literally can't fucking stop.
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I got the Ariana Grande skin last night. I don't even think I know what that is. Well, it's her skin. It's her flesh.
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Oh, my God. Yes. I think of it as the best experience of my life. Absolutely. It was the most fun I've ever had. And like I said, like that support and like just having people like no one scolding you, you know, like I'm at work, you know, and growing up like so I hate being scolded at and like it's just like an inevitable part of life kind of sometimes. Yeah.
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But in the bachelor world, no one was going to scold at me for anything like it was awesome. I was so safe.
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And the only thing that I wasn't safe with was my longevity and how long I could keep this man interested in me, this gay man interested in me.
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interesting so that part ate me alive like that's a lot of my anxiety was like making sure that i could keep my position there because i did not want to go home because this was the best place i'd ever been i never had luxury before and we were in the penthouses i never left the states except for on a cruise to mexico and we were in singapore thailand vietnam i was like please i do not want to go home but i had so much anxiety about how am i gonna get secure my position so i would like
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
Have a producer like we would come up with something like special to do with Colton every time to like stand out or something. But every time we get done, I'd be like, that man does not like me. I know he doesn't. Yeah. Like I just know it. And they're like, yes, he does. Yes, he does. So now they're brainwashing us all into thinking that this guy likes us. Oh, God. And then. Yeah.
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Cause you wanted to be there. Yeah. It's like another thing, like they do validate you no matter what happens. So you get into a fight with someone, they're going to validate your feelings, even if you might be in the wrong, but still like, uh, having that kind of support is nice. So like you, in the real world, you get into a fight with somebody.
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Sometimes you have to go off by yourself and think, Oh my God, I probably shouldn't have done that. I probably said something wrong. Like that was me. That was my fault. Whereas here you get into fight and they're like, wow, what a bitch, you know? Right. So it's different.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
A million percent, because it was okay to be any of those parts, you know? So, like, whatever might have been obnoxious or inappropriate, like, shouldn't say, became hilarious and do it again, please. Like, you know, and, like, we love you. We think you're so cool. Yeah. So it was, yeah, it was amazing. It was... It was life-changing. It really was because it told me it's okay to be this way.
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Like, it is okay to be maybe the one that... stands out in the, in the group, but not in the, like the good way. You know, I kind of was like isolated on the bachelor a little bit because, uh, the girls didn't like me, but I did not really notice at the time because I was drinking so much.
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Um, and I, and I remember noticing it, but just being like, no, like telling myself, we're not going to think that we're not going to think they're talking about us. I remember one morning they were talking about me because a couple of girls told me that they were talking about how much I drank the night before. And, um, yeah, it was shit face. Yeah.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
I was passed out on the couch waiting for the rose ceremony because they're taking hours. Yeah. And they had to hook me up with shots in order to get me to go talk to Colton about some girl because I was like, I'm not doing that. And they were like, would two tequila shots help? And I'm like, let's do it. Bottoms up. What do you want me to say again?
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
And so the next morning, I remember the girls told me that they were talking about that. And I was I don't know why I wanted I had to do this, but I was like, OK, but so then I acted like I was miserably hung over, miserably hungover. But I was not going to let anybody know. Of course. Oh, my God.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
So I was literally, like, it was like my brain decided that it was more important to make sure we didn't look hungover than to actually experience a hangover. And that's how I felt. Like, I didn't even feel the hangover anymore because I was faking it so much. Like, I remember the alcohol. Like, the person who monitors the alcohol, she came into the bathroom to, like, check on me that morning.
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And I was, like, getting ready. And she was like, how are you feeling, sweetie? And I was like... I'm fine. What do you mean? And she was like, you're fine? I was like, yeah, what are you talking about? And I'm like doing my hair. I'm like, best acting I've ever done in my life. For what? Why? And she was like, well, okay. And then I was like, all right, fuck.
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Everybody thinks I'm about to walk in here so hungover. So I run. I go into the room where everyone's at. Good morning, everybody. Oh, no. There's a producer who's like standing with his legs open. I literally run crawl in between his legs jump up. And I remember looking at the girl who was who was rumored to be talking about me in her face and she's like, what the fuck?
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and she comes up to me and she goes i would have been dead today if i was you and i was like i don't know what you mean just faked the whole thing and acted like i wasn't dying but i was i was dying honestly kind of a risky move because they could have been like damn she can drink that much and then wake up the next morning fine yeah respect be like the fuck it's my german dna i don't know
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
mazel tov and do they say that i don't know in german but i don't know if we say that it's not it's not it's not it's not us it's not us i think that's actually jewish i'm also german i don't think we say that all right well sorry about that uh I'm stuck. That's okay. I'm stuck on Mazel Tov. I want to leave. I want to leave Mazel Tov, but I don't allow.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
The first. The first. I was in America. The first.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
Honestly, like I think it was a way to subconsciously a way to protect myself from my very conservative family. Like interesting. I like being into women is such a big part of my life because like, I mean, it just is. I love it, man. It's so different than like men. And like, it's just I don't know. But but it's like it's something that I knew wasn't. going to go away.
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Like it wasn't just a phase. It was something that I wanted to be known like that I am. But I was really scared of how all of my family would perceive that because That's unacceptable where I grew up. Like my granny cried and sobbed. Why did you do that on TV, Demi? I was watching that with my church group. Why? The fuck? What does that have to do with the Lord?
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Yeah. Well, if we like go back to very early signs, when I was a baby, like I don't remember this, obviously. But like during my autism diagnosis, I had to get these questions answered by my mom and my dad. It was like things about me under the age of three. And it was like not being afraid of strangers.
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But anyway, I was like, if I do it this way. then what are they going to do about it? Like they can't, I don't know. They won't be able to shame me out of it. Like there's so many other gay people right now, like especially like out and proud. And there's such a beautiful community that like, I don't think that like I don't think I'm going to get shamed for it.
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I think that people would just appreciate it and relate to it. And I think that if they could see that and see that I wouldn't be vilified and shamed and people wouldn't be disgusted by me for it, then they could accept it, too. And it worked. I mean, I think that maybe they might have been scared to go against it because I there are so many people that support it.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
But either way, they don't treat me differently. Like they don't talk to me. Granny's a different story. Ask me when the last time I've seen her is, you know, like, yeah, I definitely like don't have a good relationship with like my family right now. But I think it's just because I'm so scared of being scolded of like being in trouble, just being like guilt tripped. I don't know a lot. Yeah.
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But when there was so much support online, I think it made it it made it so much better for me because. It made them, like my family, not able to say anything. I don't know. Yeah.
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It's like I manipulate it, but I didn't mean to. But I manipulated it to protect myself and to be able to... get what I wanted, which is ultimately I want to come out, but like orchestrate it to where like, Oh, well my family will find out like this way and then there'll be support. So then they're not going to come after me because there'll be too much support.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
Like I didn't think these steps out like that, but it's like subconsciously that's probably what's what happened. Yeah. That's what my brain knows will happen. Like it knows this pattern will happen without me having to like plan out the steps, you know what I mean? Or like think like, okay, so if I come out on the bachelor in paradise, That was insane. Why did I do that? No, it really did.
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
It really worked though. I mean, it worked. My family did not like, I did not get in trouble or whatever. I was accepted for my gayness. Did you have to kind of fight the producers to do that?
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'Lesbian Porn Raised Me' with Demi Burnett
No, they were like very like mysterious about it all. Like not telling me like, what if, if Christian was going to come or not, you know, like they were making me like sweat. Yeah. Yeah. I was sick. And then I got the poor ick from Derek, poor guy. He was so sweet.
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Yeah. No, I was literally like, hurry up. She coming or not? Because I'm about to, I got to get out of here. I can't watch this guy eat another chip with guacamole. I can't eat him. I can't watch him eat guacamole for one more second. And that's like so stupid of me. It's so shallow and dumb. And like, why do I get fixated like that?
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Like when I was under the age of three, like I wasn't I didn't recognize the difference, I guess, between like a stranger and a familiar person. Like I just didn't cry with strangers. I didn't really cry a lot though at all. I was very submissive, which is like looking back. Like very obedient, like very fawning behavior.
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Literally the same way. The same way. Anything they do. Everything they do is just really gross. Yeah. I want to be the gross one. I want to be the grossest thing, okay? I've got enough grossness that could possibly happen over here.
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I knew it. I knew it. I knew it. I've been telling people they didn't believe me. Like people didn't take it as seriously as it was. But my friend Natasha, she's from The Bachelor, Peter Season. She was staying the night with me one night. And again, another manipulative, self-conscious thing that your subconscious thing that I did.
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I think that I knew that she would take care of me and she would be safe because like I remember waking up the next morning. Hangovers fucking hit me hard. And I turned to her and I'm like, hey, I just tell you something. I'm a super bad alcoholic. Like I drink so badly and I get really sick if I don't drink, but I really don't want to drink anymore. So I'm not going to drink anymore today.
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But can you just make sure I don't die? And she took care of me and made sure like whenever I started to have seizures, she took me to the hospital or called the ambulance and I went to the hospital. Yeah. I was in the hospital for like three days. So you were having seizures that were alcohol induced? Withdrawal. Alcohol withdrawal. Holy shit. So you kind of just stopped. Oh, I did. I did. Yes.
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I just stopped because I had someone I was the reason I would I got into such a bad place with alcohol was because like hair the dog because like I hated hangovers. Like I hated them. I would have really bad anxiety. Everyone gets it. I know. But that anxiety just would eat me alive. And then I'd be by myself. And if I'm by myself at the hangover, I would drink because I could get rid of it.
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And then I just got into a cycle where like I was so sick without alcohol. So I would just drink to not be sick. I would have to wake up and drink. And I did not want to do it anymore. And I felt like shit. I felt like I was dying. Like I felt like my body was fucking shutting down. And so I just needed someone to be there for me, I guess, which I did.
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And I subconsciously knew because I got Natasha there and I made her take care of me.
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Wow. So like after six months of me not drinking, I was like, that was way too easy. Yeah. I was like, I think that I should be having a lot more like struggles with this. Like, why is it so easy for me to say I don't drink and that's it?
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Like I just did exactly what I was supposed to do because I didn't want to get in trouble. And I started talking like after 18 months, which is like you're supposed to talk before 18 months. And after 18 months could be considered a delay. But what's interesting is like I started speaking in sentences like I didn't. My mom like think she says like, I don't know, your first word is probably dada.
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And also I was having issues with friends again because I didn't have them as much when I drank because I was I mean, I could sometimes have issues with friends with the drunk situation. But most of the time I was easy breezy going, you know, but when I'm not drinking, I'm not easy breezy going. I'm I'm buzzkill. In what way?
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When I play Fortnite, like, I am very controlling over, like, who gets things. But, like, only my, like, the things that I like or, like, heals or something. Like, I could just be controlling as fuck. Okay. But also not, like, I'm trying to fight myself on the controlling. So then I'm miserable. And it's just... Yeah, I'm a pain in the ass.
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Yes. So then your experience is sucking because you're having... Because I'm just like, I'm fighting demons in my head. Yeah. So the way that not drinking was so easy and then the way that I would say something and then like to a friend or something and then it would be taken away that I didn't mean it. And it just happened so much that I was like... what am I doing?
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Like how can, like all these people can't be misunderstanding me. Like it has to be me. Like I have to be the one, the common denominator. And so I started just Googling stuff about like, I don't even remember how it started. I was Googling stuff about like, maybe about how it was easy for me to stop drinking and how I haven't thought about it because I have like this rule that I don't drink.
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And then that led me into autism with being rule bound and, And, like, that was a way I hadn't thought about being rule-bound before. Like, I'm rule-bound in weird ways. Like, I walk on the sidewalks and, like, I won't step in the grass because I'm like, no, they made the sidewalk. So we walk on the sidewalk. Like, it's the rule of the sidewalk.
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You know, it's like weird rules like that that I follow. Um, so like this, I don't drink rule. I'm, I'm just like extremely rule bound to it without even like trying. It's like effortless. Um, I don't want to drink though, mainly because like, I know that I'll get sick and I will, I never want to be sick like that again. Oh my God. I'm so, I'm so sick.
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It's just like a trait, a characteristic. It's just it can be or it can't be like autism spectrum is like there's so many different kinds of traits and experiences and like different like levels or like different support needs for each different thing.
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and stuff like that but also like I am not a professional so I don't know how to say it all the right way like I don't know all the 100% the correct information like I've done so much research so like I don't know exactly what's what anymore it's all kind of blended into my understanding of it if that makes sense just your experience of yeah yeah and my understanding of like all of this research and stuff that I've done but yeah being rule bound a lot of autistic people have rules like
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they only drink out of a certain cup or something like that. That's stereotypical rule bound. Got it. That's stereotypical rule bound. Whereas my rule bound is like, uh, uh, uh, unspoken rules. Like I have to do what things are intended for. That's interesting. Um,
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But like you just started speaking in sentences. Wow. So that's all just very a common experience. And then there was like other weird things like like, I don't know, weird things like pooping in the bathtub, like stuff like that, like weird things. Yeah. That are like with PDA autism, which is like pathological demand avoidance. And just sometimes you can have issues with toileting.
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So there's so much overlap of, of like CPTSD and, uh, autism symptoms. And what is CTPSD? Uh, complex post-traumatic stress disorder. Got it. Okay. I think, I think, yeah. Um, but the two like late diagnosed autism and CPTSD, they go hand in hand, especially actually autism and CPTSD go hand in hand.
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So there's so much overlapping that like a lot of the time, I know some people like specifically, like they want to find, figure out like if it is autism or if it is like PTSD.
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And they're just so similar that I think it's it's going to come down to like your earliest, like being under the age of three, like those things, like those developmental delays that you could have had or that someone could have had, like the ones that I had. Those are the ones that ultimately gave me the diagnosis is.
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What other people are saying, not what I'm saying, you know, like what other people are saying. I see. Like from what your mom, dad and your grandma said. And they had a session with my best friend without me and asked and she definitely didn't think I was autistic. So you she went in there trying to make me sound as normal as possible. And I still they came out saying, oh, yeah, she's autistic.
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Oh, yeah. So, I mean, that's funny. And that's why I wanted her to do it, because I was like, I know she's going to this way. I can get the most validation to myself because I want I didn't I thought it, but I didn't believe it. You know, I was like, no, I doubted myself because when I was 18.
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I totally forgot about this like at the time until I remembered when I was 18, before I started heavily drinking in college, I thought I might be autistic because I had like this big falling out with my friends. And I somehow got into Googling research about it and went like the same rabbit hole that I went down, except for minus the drinking.
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And, um, I remember telling people about it and like my parents and they were like, absolutely not like, no, you are not. And so then I just forgot that thought. Like I just drank that away, whatever. Um, So then whenever I thought it again, I thought that it was like I was in the matrix. Like, I don't even know. It was just like, oh, my God, this is so meta. Is this happening again?
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Like, oh, my God. I just remembered like that I had thought this before in college. And so then I was sick and then I texted my aunt. I was like, I need to ask you something or tell you something like I think I might be autistic. And she said, I think I might be, too. And I said, oh, thank God. Wow. And I have a cousin who's autistic. So like it's like, yeah, OK, it's everywhere.
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But CPTSD, it does look a lot like it. They're so common together. It's like it's less like the less the important thing isn't figuring out like exactly what it is. It's what tools can you use to help you right now? Are the tools for autistic people going to help you in the world? Yes. Then use them. Then you're autistic or you don't you can say it or not or whatever.
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But like just focus on whatever is going to help you. Get through this world and like have a happier, more independent life. It's like less important on pinning that down and more important about like what's going to help you move forward.
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postpone the care that you needed or the language that you needed or whatever exactly exactly exactly the the what you needed and it also makes you feel inferior because they're they're talking to you like you wouldn't know better like you couldn't possibly know so it's like uh it it makes you feel less than
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Like I had like a weird I like strep throat, but on my butthole.
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Yeah. You know better. You know better than me. Like I don't do well with that.
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Well, there's not a lot of stuff, but there is a lot of stuff because of the online community. Like the main thing that I got was, uh, well, so much validation, um, lots of resources, lots of like books and stuff to read like this book called Asper girls, which I know We don't have Asperger's anymore, which is really funny because in England they call it Asperger's.
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good enough when i was a kid because i just was like i just it was over it i don't know i just i was gross not gross but like you know i just avoided like hygiene and like things especially when my stepmom and my dad divorced when i was 11 okay because then i was a prepubescent woman who was not hygienic not wearing deodorant not washing in between my cracks you know like It was gross.
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And I talked to this guy who has it and it was years ago. And he was like, it's so funny. You guys call it Asperger's. Asperger's. Asperger's. I was like, yeah, I don't know why we call that. So anyway, Asper Girls, it's an amazing book. And reading that book is so validating because it talks about so many experiences that you've never even thought about.
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But then when she says them, you're like, oh, my God.
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like you know it's like um like I remember one of them is about like uh when I was a kid I would always press my hands I would rub my eyes so I could see all the shapes and like I would sit there for long periods of time as in like just staring into these shapes that I was making out of the darkness yeah and um it talks about like that experience and I was like oh my god I forgot about that like I used to do that for so long and like just looking into the nothingness but making shapes out of it I don't know how to explain it so yeah and then um
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There's lots of she sent me like just so much good stuff to read and validation and stuff. And also like for PDA autism, like she sent me like PDA affirming therapist. And what is PDA? It stands for pathological demand avoidance. But a lot of people prefer pervasive drive of pervasive drive for autonomy. OK, so it's hard to explain it shortly. I really wish I could play a video for you.
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I think that right now, because I need to explain it to you, my brain is having a hard time doing it because it has PDA. OK, because it has a pervasive drive for autonomy and it doesn't have any autonomy in telling you because you asked. Do you see what I'm saying? Yeah. But it's really stupid. But stuff like this happens all the time with my friends.
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And my friends who know about it, we can laugh about it. And I'll be like, well, I'm not telling you now because you asked me. And then they'll be like, well, I didn't want to know anyway. And I'll be like, okay, well, here's the tea.
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You have to trick me though. And there's not, there are not a lot of people willing to do it. Like I've had to go through a lot of friends like into, into see the ones who will stick around for this shit, you know, like, because there are a lot of benefits to me. Like. not only am I entertaining and hilarious, but I also like, I validate the fuck out of you.
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Like if I do something to upset you, my first response is not going to be, well, I wasn't trying. No, it is. Oh my God. I am so sorry. I, I see exactly why you would think that, like, that makes sense. I did not mean to do that. Like I am, I was having a moment because most of the time it is me being like jealous because I get really jealous in Fortnite. Yeah.
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When people have better guns than me, I get really fucking jealous. I get and I act out on it. So so it's like, you know, I take ownership of what I did and how that impacted or could have impacted them. And nobody hurt. I mean, only like the friends that I have now that we've been through a lot of it. They do that for me. But most people do not do that. They don't validate whatever.
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If you're upset with them, they're like, I'm upset with you for being upset with me.
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So like just eliminating all of that from my life.
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has been really good but it's also like knowing that i'm autistic gives me these answers to things about myself of like what's wrong with me so it's like okay nothing's wrong with me but i am this way about things so like i'm probably not gonna get along with certain people who aren't that way about things and that's fine interesting i don't suck because of that they don't suck because of that like
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it's just different and it's fine yeah it just gives you like kind of a map to navigate the world yes absolutely absolutely um i just like this saying of like uh knowing if you're autistic or not it's like knowing if you're running on a mac or a windows system oh i love that yeah and it i mean it's it's so crazy like how we all have so many universal experiences as like like Here's another one.
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Here's another one. Universal experiences as like autistic people, late diagnosed or early diagnosed. And just having that like sense of community of people to relate to that right after I got diagnosed was like the best, the most healing, the most validating. It was great.
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That we can't like be like me. know or like like rfk thinks like you know we ruin families like that's the problem has never like autism has always been here the rise in diagnosis is a good thing because it means we have more resources to recognize it and so all of the money that he's trying to spend and trying to cure it whatever
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This is not going how I want it. This is not what we're supposed to do. What the fuck? You set me up. I'm so sorry. Hold on. Let's backtrack. Fuck.
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He needs to spend that money on resources for autistic families because we already we we just don't have resources. There's no help. The families of autistic people need help. They're autistic. People aren't ruining the family's lives. They would be fine if y'all would help them, if you would use that money just to help them out or make and by helping them out.
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It's like by just helping make life more enjoyable and easier for everyone. Like that's what our resources should do. Just help make their lives easier, not try to like you can't cure it. You can't cure it, man. We don't want to. We like it. Right. What do you like about it? I like that I'm a friend that is willing to understand people like I can see where they're coming from.
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I like that part of it. I like that I am rule bound because then I don't drink and I don't die. I like that. I don't know why autistic people are queer, but a lot of them are queer. So I like that. That I think that that did that, you know, the autism did that. I like that. I like that. It, it makes me like, I like fun stuff, you know?
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And like, now that I know I'm autistic, I'm not afraid to wear things and like do whatever I want because it's like people would speak. Autistic is fine.
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Now she's autistic. It's okay. Whereas before maybe they were expecting me to, you know, be in a, House of CB dress all the time or something. Right. In a bachelor gown. Looking pageant-esque, beautiful. Yeah. Which, you know, it's fun. I mean, no hate, no shade to the pageant girls, all right? They got a bed. They got a bed.
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And the bachelor producers just feasting on them, on these women that have been exploited for years. They're like, I can't wait to get our hands on her. Make her cry.
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Me too. I love it. I love being... in both communities so much. And I feel like the communities are just merging.
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Yeah. I mean, explore it. You know, if you think you're autistic, then just try for like a week of actually like believing it or like at least acting like you believe it. So like treat yourself like an autistic person, like give yourself the grace, the compassion, the tools, whatever that you would give another disabled person, like Give that to yourself.
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I just had a hard time with people like misunderstanding my intentions and thinking that I was trying to like when I moved to Texas, these this this was scary. They were scary people. They're scary white trash people trying to fight me, OK, trying to fight me left or right. And I'm like, I'm 12. I'm 12. Stop trying to beat me up. Like, what do you mean you're going to beat me up?
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Treat yourself like that for a week and see how you feel. And if you feel happier, well, welcome to the club. You're autistic. You want a cake?
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Oh, people can find me on Instagram at Demi underscore not underscore Lovato. Sorry, I'm looking at her right now. And on Twitter, no, on TikTok, at Demlia, D-M-L-I-A. Same with Twitch. I stream Fortnite on there. So you guys should watch me play Fortnite. I'm going to check it out. And watch the new show. Oh, my gosh. Watch Got To Get Out. It's so funny. Watch it. Watch it. Watch it.
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I mean, I don't know. I don't get anything from you watching it. But... Actually, watch it and talk about me. Talk all this shit you would like. Say bad, horrible things about me. I just need people gossiping about me again. They haven't been talking about me at all. Nothing good, nothing bad. So at this point, please start rumors. We need to get you a board on the L chat.
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I have no idea what you just said. OK, well, I'll board on the L's chat. I'll tell you. Sounds lesbian. It is. Sounds gay.
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We absolutely do. OK. One million percent. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. One time I was like 18 or 19. I got into the Tumblr lesbian group. I just had a couple photos go viral, though. Lesbian Tumblr photos go viral. Oh, yeah. I've got them on my phone still. Don't worry. Well, there you go. But yeah, so that was my last time where I really like I was.
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That was the last time that the lesbian community was really talking about me. Well, of course, after the bachelor thing happened. Yeah. But I want them talking about me again. I want them all. Foaming at the mouth for me. I want them all to know what this sweet puss tastes like. I want them all lined up begging for me, please. But then chill, all right? Don't beg too much. Have some dignity.
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She can, I'll just tell her to stop wearing it.
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I can't imagine what I could hate so much, but like I got a you ghost. I can't. If someone smells, that's, I can't. Yeah, I agree. Like if I don't like the smell and that's her favorite perfume, they're going to smell like it all the time. Bye. Sorry, I'm sensitive to smells. Yeah, I agree with this one. Smells are a big thing. Okay. I mean, maybe it just depends.
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Like maybe if I don't know, I'd have to smell the perfume because I'm like, I'm just thinking about just like the most prettiest woman ever. And if she smelled like a certain perfume, like what? Like white diamond, like my white diamond perfume. Okay. Is that bad?
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Well, sorry to all of the women out there who love that perfume, but it is musky, dusty, and smells like, it is like the typical, stereotypical grandma perfume. Oh, yeah. Okay, it's white diamond. Yeah, it's the most grandma perfume you'll ever smell. You'll smell it, and you'll be hit with grandma, and you won't even realize it.
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Like, you'll be like, oh, my God, how did they capture my grandma in this bottle? Literally, it smells just like grandma. It's crazy. Am I wrong?
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You have a cool grandma. My grandma smells great. Mine's dead. All right. Sorry about that one. So, I mean, I don't know why I brought up grandma. I walked into that. I walked right into that. But anyway, yeah, if she smelled like white diamond, I think that I could talk her out of it.
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OK, what about she insists on moving every year? You ghost. I'm not moving. Forget about it. I want a homestead, you know, like I want to be somewhere. I want to move into this house. You know what I mean? I want to live here and and yeah, be somewhere stable. I can't be moving all the time. No. Yeah, I agree. That feels young to me.
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Yeah, it does feel young or like if it's not young, it's unstable. Yeah, that's fair, too.
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And so just culturally, it felt I don't know if I could just in Virginia, I just felt so safe. I don't know. And then when I moved to Texas, like it was just it was just a lot of like violence. I don't know. And a lot of like. Yeah, just people trying to beat me up and stuff over, like, weird things. But then I remember that they... I don't even know where this person got this. What they... How?
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frequently and now looking back I'm like I think that's because he just burns a lot of bridges that's exactly what it is when people say they move a lot I'm like yeah what'd you do what'd you do this time but also there are you know I do know some circumstances of like especially in like the autistic community like there's a lot of people who struggle with like having to move a lot because of circumstances with landlords and a lot of the time it is like misunderstandings and like ableism and stuff so
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Yeah, I don't think so. I've literally lived too many places. When I was a kid, we moved all over the place. Like, yeah, I would have Washington State, then Washington, D.C., then Virginia. That's too much. It's already too much. And L.A. And then also, do we count where my mom lived? Because then we add New Mexico and Arizona. That is... Maybe a tenth of the states, not even.
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How many did I name? It's fine. It's too many. It's like I would never even think about that. All I have is L.A. because I'm proud of L.A. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I have L.A. in mine, too. I'm so proud to be here. Yeah, same. I mean, I worked my butt off. being hilarious on The Bachelor to escape the South.
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Yeah, I don't care at all. I mean, I do. Now I get to be a little bit more, uh, I can have any kind of say, but in the beginning, no, because you're like, they're going to pick someone else. If I say no, or if I want to change anything, if I have any complaints, they might pick someone else. So I'll just go with it. Yeah. And it was fine. I had no like issues like. I mean, what? Yeah.
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Nothing bad came of it. Yeah. I actually had a great edit.
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We fall in love fast. She is so hot, but crazy. We will break up soon.
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I don't know. But someone started a rumor that I was gay. And I felt very alone during those times. Yeah, I did. Nobody wanted to be my friend. Except for the girls that were gay. But I think that they maybe made that up because I was friends with the two girls that were kissing. Because they were my two friends. I was like... Well, they're hot. They look great. What are you talking about?
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Why is anybody mad? Two hot girls are kissing? I thought we would eat this shit up. And now nobody wants to talk to me for orchestrating it. Sorry. Sorry.
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No, because, well, yeah, I, like, it was forbidden. That was forbidden. Yeah. I was, I grew up in a very Southern Baptist house, like, That was not an option. But when I was younger, I had gone to Demi.com, because why not? That's my name. Massive porn site. Just girls on girls everywhere. Titties everywhere. And I remember being very intrigued. And then I would chat online with people.
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I don't know if they were really lesbian women, but I would talk dirty with them. Oh, no. I would talk dirty with lesbians in chat rooms. And on, like, Hobo Hotel. I know, I would have them doing weird things to me sometimes. I remember this one. Oh, no, she was wild. She was like, asterisk, whips, asterisk. Like, she was whipping me and stuff. Yeah, that was sick.
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I cannot believe it. It's too much. It's too much Demi. It's too much Demi. Literally. Yeah. That was crazy as a kid figuring that out. But, but yeah, so, but, but once I, I convinced everyone that I was not gay, I was like, no way, no way. I'm not gay. And then proceeded to. I would have a two-week cycle of where I would talk to a guy, and then the thought of him disgusted me.
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I would ghost him, but we went to the same school, so I would hide from him. I would start walking different ways in the hallway. They called me Heartbreak Demi because I was a virgin until I was 18, so I wasn't having sex with anybody. I wanted to flirt in the hallways because I couldn't even hang out with him. My dad wouldn't let me.
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So I just wanted guys to flirt in the hallway with, you know, and hold hands and like live out this little fantasy. And then I would just get utterly disgusted with them. The poor things.
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Yeah. Then I, so yeah, once I started diddling my skittle, it was over. Yeah.
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Demi.com. Literally. There's just something about it, you know? Yeah. Lesbo porn got me through some dark times. Yeah, same. And it helped raise me, you know?
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I was working at Pottery Barn, and I don't know. One of my coworkers, I miss her, Sandy. Shout out, Sandy. She'll never listen to this, I don't think, but she might. She's like 75 years old. She might. If she's questioning anything, she might. Yeah, hey, she might still be single, actually. There you go. Sandy, Sandy, I would date you. Actually, I would. Mm-hmm. come on.
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Um, but Sandy is wonderful. She told me, she was like, you should go on the bachelor. And then she was like, well, you should do it when you're 25. Cause I was 23 at the time. And I was like, yeah, you're right. But I guess like, I don't know. I used to get wine drunk and watch it with my friend. And so at some point I, I guess I applied.
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And then they called me though, when I was at work at pottery barn and I like saw on my phone, I was getting a call from eight one eight and it was Los Angeles. And I said, Oh fuck this place. And I stepped outside and I answered the call. But I walked back in and I was like, oh, my God, that was a bachelor. And, yeah, then it just, like, started from there.
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And then I was like, I'm going to get on this show. And, I don't know, just, like, I've watched so much reality TV. Like, it's just subconsciously I know how to be – like, I know how to make good TV. And also I have so much fun doing it. Okay, so just from, like –
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Okay, yeah. So can you explain to me? Yes, it's very easy to explain. So when you go on reality TV... You are a fucking princess. Like, I literally have never had more support in my life. Like, in the world, I'm on my own. No one gets me anything. If I have a problem, I have to solve it, okay? I'm alone. On The Bachelor, I say I'm hot. Someone comes running in with a fan, okay?
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That is literally support, support, support. More neurodivergent people would thrive on reality shows, 100%. You literally have a handler. You have a, AKA like support designated to you. And they're never mean to you. All they're doing is like validating you constantly being nice and people pleasing you. They're perfect. It's literally amazing. I loved it. I loved it there.
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And a lot of, I had to drink. That's why, not had to, but that's why I did drink. Got it. Because I would, I don't know how I would have done without it then. Like now I would be fine, but then I don't think that I would have got, I would have been the same Demi without alcohol because I would have been so afraid of
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the other people's reactions and things of like what I was doing or saying or like I would be thinking, oh, their feedback would let me know like I'm doing it wrong and I need to like change in what I'm doing. Whereas since I was drinking, I didn't care any feedback. I was like, oh, it doesn't matter. Everyone loves me. Sure, whatever. I don't care. I just didn't really pay any mind to it.
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I was able to like that anxiety. I could just drink that off.
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In ways, yes. In other ways, no. Like, I think I was maybe myself at that time in my life. Like back then when I used to drink, yeah, I was a horn dog. Yeah, I really would. I would have sex with anything. Who knows? It doesn't matter to me. Just want to get off. Yeah. So, yeah, like I think it would be that myself at that time to be like overtly like sexual and stuff.
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But like now not drinking, like I'm a prude, you know, like I'm like, good God, I can't believe I was even like talking about that. Like, you know, it's just like it's just so funny. Yeah. I was like this before I drank and now I'm back into being a prude, which I'm not if I'm like with someone, but like. I don't want to be with anyone who's getting with a bunch of other people.
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I just don't. Like, I want someone to just be worried about me. Like, we don't even have to date that long. Like, we could just, but just date me for a second. Yeah. You know? Yeah, you just want the attention on you. Why do you need to date four people at one time? Why can't you date one, then two, then three, then four? I agree with that.
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I didn't like it. No, because like I am there is toxica inside of me. I'm toxic. And I do like that that whenever I like someone, I really am like crazy about them. And I do want to control that. But I want you to be controlling that, too. You know, I'm over here thinking we're both controlling ourselves by not texting each other nonstop. But really, you're just with other people.
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You're eating other puss. Like, what? What? I'm sorry. I thought we were both growing in a slow, steady pace together. Oh, that's not what's happening? Okay. I hate it. I've done it to me twice. Like, what the fuck? Two times now I've been like, this is great. They're moving at a great pace. They're not annoying me because they're not blowing me up all the time. Oh, no.
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Yeah, because you're dating other people, Demi. Oh, no. It's obvious. All the signs are there. Yeah. I just... I was, I was trying to like put myself in their shoes and I was like, yeah, well, you know, like look at me, I'm not texting them because I'm, I'm trying to hold back. They're probably trying to do the same thing. And I would just assume that the best optimist.
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Yeah. Stop fucking around with me. Like, don't put me on the fucking roster. I'm not on the roster. I'm the headliner. I'm the headliner. Okay. The fuck? I'm sorry. It's just like I want that. I just I want that right now. Yeah. I was on The Bachelor. Like, come on. Don't do that to me again. Don't do that to me again. So true. What the fuck? I'm over it. I've done this. Literally.
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Like, I'm not fighting for someone's love. I'm not. No, like, I will once you've fought for mine. Once you have fought on your hands and knees for me, then I will get down there with you. Yeah. And I'll pick you up, you know? Like... But you got to you got to do all that for me first. Yeah, I agree. I like that. I like the standards. Well, they're a little too high.