Derek Thompson

To which I blurted out something like, well, that's the last time I buy you flowers.

And Derek, that went over just about as well as you'd expect.

Not so good.

Now, my wife, Julie, was on the call as well.

So she heard this and she turns to me after the call and she says, Nir, do you want to do a turnaround on this?

To which I said, no, I do not want to do your touchy feely, hocus pocus, mumbo jumbo.

I need to vent.

That's what we're told to do.

That when someone disagrees with us, when someone hurts our feelings, when someone is judging us in a way that we don't appreciate, we need to speak our truth.

We need to tell them what we think.

We need to get it off our chest.

It turns out at that point, I knew enough about what the research says about venting that venting is terrible.

That venting does nothing but solidify this effigy of the person.

We don't see people.

We see our beliefs about people.

So venting does nothing but reinforce, she always does that.

That's so like her.

There she goes again.

So I had enough sense not to vent.

And instead, I did what's called a turnaround.