Derek Thompson

Now, a turnaround, this is a technique that comes from what's called inquiry-based stress reduction.

It's a technique that was developed by Byron Katie, but actually its roots go back 2,000 years, all the way back to Aristotle.

And what this technique does is that it uses a few questions to help us see things from a different belief perspective.

We're not changing our minds because the brain hates changing our minds.

It's incredibly uncomfortable.

The brain always wants to retreat into what it's done before, into passivity, into what's kept it safe.

So it's not trying to change your mind.

It's not trying to change your beliefs.

It's trying to collect a portfolio of perspectives.

And so I'm telling you what happened with my mom, but you can literally do this with any of your limiting beliefs.

Whatever's causing you suffering in your life, you can do the same practice.

So the first question is,

is to ask yourself, is your belief true?

My belief was my mother is too judgmental and hard to please, okay?

So question number one sounds absolutely ridiculous.

Nobody likes the first question when they first heard it.

Yeah, I just told you, Derek, come on.

You agree with me, right?

My mom was too judgmental and hard to please.

Very obvious, right?