Devorah Roloff

You can have the best, most family type of relationships with people you have absolutely no blood relation to.

Yeah, yeah.

People that you don't even know sometimes will treat you better in a day and people will treat you in 20 years.

I was going to say, it's almost like you need to find forgiveness within yourself, not to mend the relationship, but to kind of...

view it differently yeah but once again like genuinely that takes time anybody that tells you like just oh just forgive like it's ruining your own mental health like okay yeah but it's easier said than done you know and it's I think it's almost worse to act like you're in a different place when you're really not there yet so if right now you and you're angry you feel bitter like allow yourself to feel that but I think you know it's not always about like the first thought we have it's like the second thought we have

You know, we can feel this thought of anger and bitterness and whatever else when we immediately think of the person.

But I think if we can kind of like, after we have that initial thought and feeling, if we can kind of shift right after to be like, okay, like, yes, I feel that way, but it's not good for me.

Like, I don't have to be angry at this person anymore.

If anything, I just have to feel bad for them.

Yeah.

And you shouldn't.

And like we said, one day that could change.

And I think that even then it's like it might be this kind of full circle moment where it you have a relationship, but there are boundaries set.

And I think that that's fine as well.

But, you know, what I wanted to say was you got to give yourself some.

some grace because you are still so young and it takes people you know sometimes until they're in their 50s or 60s to get to the point where you're at right now yeah you know so it's like I feel like you're already in a in a good place to start your healing journey and where you are healing and I just think that

I think anger and bitterness is an easy thing to hold on to.

And I think, like you said, maybe it's a way of you not wanting to fully let things go.

It feels better to feel some emotion than no emotion towards it.

I think that's the little you in there just wanting to make those people proud.