Dhru Purohit

So one of the big ideas that I want to touch on is that most people are living in survival mode.

This is a key concept to talk about in the book.

You guys say that common is not the same as necessary.

When it comes to stress, stress feels normal because it's common.

We all look around.

It's common, but it's not how we're meant to live.

Do you want to add more to that?

I think this builds off of what you were talking about.

Yeah, such an important thing to realize because we don't even, until we take a step back,

and we actually reframe and see the world as we're meant to see it, we don't realize just how much the collective stress becomes the way that we all think that this is how it all should be.

There's this coach to executives.

His name is Jerry Colonna, and he has this great quote.

He says, you know, one of the important questions that we can be asking ourselves when it comes to these life problems that we experience, these patterns, is how have I played a role in keeping alive the things that I say that I don't want in my life?

It doesn't mean that you 100% created it, but it's how do I play a role?

How do I play a role in keeping it alive?

Because there's always something that we get, even for the most destructive patterns that are there in our life.

We get something from it, right?

We get something from it.

And that something is enough, even though it feels like we're shooting ourselves in the foot, that something is enough, whether it's subconscious or conscious, that something is enough for us to say that even though this thing is painful, it's familiar, it's easy, it allows us to sort of avoid something, whatever it might be.

It feels safe.