Dhru Purohit

Ideally, more time around that, though, in terms of connecting with your partner.

Non-sexual physical touch is one of the best avenues into that, right?

Like cuddling, hand-holding, lying next to each other on the couch if you're watching your favorite Netflix show or whatever it is that you're doing or reading.

But being able to plan out and carve out that time for each other

where you're coming to that space, having worked on that initial first layer of the pyramid, calming your nervous system before you connect with a partner, that is really going to do wonders because once we focus on pleasure and once we focus on coming together with our partner in a mindset where we can connect,

we're more likely to enjoy the sex while it's happening, which is going to make us more likely to keep having that sex, right?

Because pleasurable sex leads to more desire for more sex.

So it's really about prioritizing that time to lean into your fantasies and lean into, you know, again, using that what's the best sex we've ever had as a launching point to explore what might be satisfying in bed.

Exactly.

Yep.

Exactly.

Yes, yeah.

Exactly, yeah.

And even layered on top of that is so much science showing that sometimes we don't start out fully in the mood to have sex with our partner.

We might start out in a place where we've calmed our nervous system, we've carved out time for intimacy, and we kind of feel like maybe I could have sex, but I'm not totally sure if I'm into it.

And what we see is that for a lot of people, it's the physiological arousal that precedes the psychological subjective sense of feeling turned on.

And so what that means

is that it's through once you begin touching your partner.

Once you begin, whether it is non-sexual touch or if it's just making out.

I highly recommend just making out with your partner without necessarily it having to lead to sex.