Dhru Purohit

in whatever happened in the past and the zigzags and again the word i keep on returning to is the inertia of some other energy that took you in this direction or that direction when you're present you can see every situation for what it is that means that if you need to speak up with your partner because there's something specifically that's there your wife your husband hey sweetie i would have loved it if we could have done this we talked about this earlier today

I'm a little bummed out it didn't happen.

Help me understand, you know, is your day really super busy?

How can I play a role?

How can I help out?

You just come in less defensive about the situation.

Even when somebody else comes back super defensive, you're like, okay, cool.

This person's just dealing with their own situation.

I've been defensive at times.

I've been reactionary at times.

Let me not react and not add to the drama, which is very hard to do.

And we've all failed multiple times, including myself.

when we're in a story, when we're not present to what's happening here, and we're interacting with somebody based on the past, or our nervous system is so wired that the tiniest little thing that somebody does sets us off.

Yeah, it's such an important thing to look at because you're talking about a very delicate balance of things, which is that

That is a story that you created.

But just like you talk about in the book, you and your brothers, it's a story that was trapped in your nervous system, right?

There's a section in the book, and it's a big idea that I've outlined here for our podcast.

The past lives in your nervous system.

Trauma isn't what happened to you.

It's what your nervous system is still doing about it.