Dhru Purohit

I think that's an especially important point when we consider the orgasm gap, right?

Which is when you ask couples or people who are straight, did you have an orgasm the last time you had sex?

Only 67% of women will say yes, whereas 95% of men will say yes.

And so what is happening in the sexual experience that is leading to fewer orgasms for women?

It's probably this emphasis on penetrative sex as sort of the main course.

Meaning that because of what we see in the media, in porn, in Netflix, we expect women to have an orgasm within five minutes of penetration just from penetration.

The reality is that only 18% of women can have an orgasm from penetrative sex alone.

So yes, it's really important for women, especially to explore their bodies and to understand the types of touch that help them to have an orgasm, which for women,

For the 82% of women who are not able to have an orgasm from just penetrative sex alone is clitoral stimulation.

It all comes down to figuring out what types of clitoral stimulation feel the best to enable you to have more orgasms.

There are so many incredible toys that are on the market, whether it is suction technology or they are even toys that have AI sensors that adjust to the specific rhythms of your body and that can sense when you're more aroused and change themselves to

adapt to your particular body.

There are ones that stimulate the G-spot.

There are all different types of creative toys as sexual wellness has become more prioritized in our culture.

Use those tools, right?

Don't be afraid.

Yes, you should be masturbating, right?

Everyone should be masturbating, but especially women, to figure out what feels good so that you can, when you're in the context of having sex with your partner, be able to communicate what are those types of touch.

And maybe it's about bringing a toy into the bedroom that worked especially well for you.

But yes, you need to be masturbating and figuring out what helps you to have an orgasm so that when you're in bed with a partner, you know your body.