Dhru Purohit

And or behavioral types of feedback, right?

Initiating something that you want to do.

Showing a person with your hand where you want to be touched, right?

Using both verbal and nonverbal cues.

Using noise, moans, sighs, things that allow your partner to understand how is this feeling and paying attention to those verbal cues of your partner and behavioral cues, the rate of their breath, right?

How are they responding to what's happening?

Because that is all part of sexual communication.

People have different sexual communication styles, right?

Some people are going to naturally feel very comfortable using their words and being very forthright about exactly what they want to try.

Other people might feel a little bit less comfortable with that, right?

And that's where these more behavioral and nonverbal types of communication can come into play.

And then there's the communication that needs to happen after the sexual experience, which is kind of the debrief, right?

Talking about, wow, that experience was amazing, right?

What felt really good?

I loved it when you did XYZ with your tongue.

I loved it when you initiated that new position.

Really talking about what felt amazing, that's going to then build desire for the next time that you have sex.

Because like we talked about, pleasure is what invites desire for the next sexual experience.

It's focusing on what worked, what brought you a sense of feeling amazing in your body and a sense of connection to your partner.

That, if you can identify those factors and articulate them, that's going to lead you to feel desire for the next time you have sex.