Dhru Purohit

Sexual satisfaction, there is just decades of research showing that it is a very strong predictor of relationship satisfaction.

And yet, just like you said, Drew, we tend to think of it as something that needs to be siphoned off into another part of our lives, or where it just shouldn't be prioritized and it's just gonna kind of fall from the sky when the time is right.

Yes.

So sexual satisfaction is a huge predictor of relationship satisfaction.

And to me, what's really interesting with this data is that it's not the case that relationship satisfaction just seems to naturally lead to more sex, right?

Which is what we might think, like, oh, we're in a good relationship.

Sex is just going to kind of start to happen.

What tends to happen when you look at longitudinal data is that couples who are prioritizing intimacy and enjoying satisfying sex later go on to report higher levels of relationship satisfaction.

meaning that that improvement of intimacy, specifically sexual intimacy in your life, is a real catalyst for improving relationship satisfaction.

Working on your relationship is obviously critical.

Developing those skills where you feel seen and heard and loved and cared for, that's really important.

But just doing that alone, that's not gonna lead to better sex, right?

We need to be focused on

sex for pleasure's sake, right?

Improving pleasure, increasing the sense of connection that we feel sexually to our partner, because that is really what the catalyst is for building this relationship satisfaction.

It truly does.

And that's why, you know, on our quest to have better sex, this is why I really developed this McNichols hierarchy of sexual needs.

Because essentially what you're talking about is there's that physiological piece, right, which is really happening at an individual level.

And in conversations that I have also had with numerous doctors about

A lot of the reason that men are coming in and reporting that they're struggling with ED is because they're not taking care of themselves, right?