Dhru Purohit

We live in this culture where we're always on this productivity treadmill, right?

Where we're all hamsters.

Our nervous systems are out of whack.

We're not taking care of ourselves.

We're not eating well.

We're not getting sleep.

And if you're not taking care of yourself, if you're not minding to your own central nervous system and physical health, you are not going to be able to show up in a sexual context and enjoy it and perform and feel at ease and have connected sex no matter how badly you want to.

So in other words, the foundation of that hierarchy is really getting connected to your body, taking care of your body,

clearing your mental load, calming your central nervous system so that we can get to that second level of the hierarchy, which is really about developing the skill set to meet your partner and to come together with your partner and to find time, like you were just talking about, to plan intimacy into your lives.

Great.

This is why we have podcasts, by the way.

They should be free-flowing.

Yes, the beauty of that finding is that it's not that couples have to be having sex all the time, or if you're single, that you need to be having sex all the time to reap these benefits, right?

If you look actually at the data, the frequency as a mean comes out to...

once a week or more.

But the finding is that if you're having sex more than once a week, you're not going to be reporting any higher level of relationship satisfaction overall than couples that are just having it somewhat regularly, right?

And so this is really, you know, just based on, you know, it reflects the very basic point that sex is a form of communication with your partner, right?

You're showing up in a way that is vulnerable and intense

and really is showing an attunement to your partner's needs and pleasure in a way that communication in other aspects of your day-to-day life are just not going to meet those same needs, right?

In other words, we're communicating and we're coming together with our partners in a really beautiful way when we enjoy sexual intimacy.