Dhru Purohit

And I agree with you, Drew.

And we even know that male fetuses are more active in the womb than female fetuses.

We know that males have more serotonin than females in their brains naturally, making them less susceptible to anxiety and depression.

We know that women have more dopamine in their brains, which makes men more likely to suffer from addiction.

So yes, absolutely, there are these biological difference, but I think when it comes to sex, what's almost even more important are these gendered expectations around the importance of sex, right?

And the idea is that many of us just grew up thinking that

oh, sex is just something you do for your husband, right?

Or it's something you're, you know, or you're meant to be the sexual gatekeeper and it's supposed to be the husband in, you know, the context of a straight relationship who's always trying for sex and is always ready for sex.

And the woman is supposed to be

coy and not straightforward and honest about her desires.

And it also just goes back to a larger gendering within culture of women being socialized to want to meet other people's needs.

And then you layer on top of that all of these different sociological factors that are going on.

I've been married for 22 years.

I have three kids.

I know what the emotional labor is like of trying to be a woman in today's society, right?

It's you've got the, you know, if you're married, you've got the emotional needs of your children, you've got the planning of the dentist appointment, you have the dog that ate the crayons last night and puked and has to go to the doctor.

Right?

You've got the, you know, you're managing schedules of two people often who are in, right, the highest, most aggressive points in their careers, right?

And so we, again, don't ever question that because we think that that's just sort of our responsibility, right?

But this division of household labor is still very real, and yet we're not having enough conversations about how to balance that out