Dhru Purohit

so that women feel like, hey, my needs matter.

And within that, yes, my sexual needs matter.

And yes, as a woman, I have desires.

I have kinks.

I have fantasies.

I have things I want to try.

Because what's interesting is that women actually in long-term relationships

they get bored faster.

We tend to think it's men, but it's actually women.

And this is why novelty is so important, especially for women.

And you have to have that sense of entitlement and be free from shame if you're going to be able to feel like, I want to be able to bring forth my fantasies.

I want to be able to tell my partner exactly

what I want, how I want to be touched.

I always tell couples, sit down, have a conversation about the best sex you've ever had.

Talk about what was that really incredible sex you've had, what happened, what was the emotional landscape like in terms of how you felt coming into it.

Was it on vacation when you were away from your normal, natural day-to-day lives?

Was it when you had gone out to dinner and felt like they had listened to you about a dream that you had that you'd been afraid to tell them about?

Was it maybe when they just recognized that day that you were exhausted and worked extra hard to lean in and take care of all of these things that can make women so exhausted that we have to manage so many times in our lives?

Find that, right?

Focus on that.