Dhru Purohit

This is where I really believe in, and this is based off of just robust data showing the efficacy,

of planning intimacy, right?

Which many couples think, oh my God, like I don't want to have to plan sex.

That just seems like it's the most unsexy activity in the world.

But I'm not saying that you need to create a contract where you're going to go have a sex date where you just mid dishwasher emptying, go and jump in bed and expect your body to instantly turn on and have sex.

But it's about carving out time for connection and intimacy with your partner and creating an environment where intimacy is likely to happen, right?

There can be flexibility built around it.

But like I mentioned before, we could manage usually 30 minutes once a week in our schedules to plan that intimacy.

Ideally, more time around that, though, in terms of connecting with your partner.

Non-sexual physical touch is one of the best avenues into that, right?

Like cuddling, hand-holding, lying next to each other on the couch if you're watching your favorite Netflix show or whatever it is that you're doing or reading.

But being able to plan out and carve out that time for each other

where you're coming to that space, having worked on that initial first layer of the pyramid, calming your nervous system before you connect with a partner, that is really going to do wonders because once we focus on pleasure and once we focus on coming together with our partner in a mindset where we can connect,

we're more likely to enjoy the sex while it's happening, which is going to make us more likely to keep having that sex, right?

Because pleasurable sex leads to more desire for more sex.

So it's really about prioritizing that time to lean into your fantasies and lean into, you know, again, using that what's the best sex we've ever had as a launching point to explore what might be satisfying in bed.

Exactly.

Yep.

Exactly.

Yes, yeah.