Dhru Purohit

Exactly, yeah.

And even layered on top of that is so much science showing that sometimes we don't start out fully in the mood to have sex with our partner.

We might start out in a place where we've calmed our nervous system, we've carved out time for intimacy, and we kind of feel like maybe I could have sex, but I'm not totally sure if I'm into it.

And what we see is that for a lot of people, it's the physiological arousal that precedes the psychological subjective sense of feeling turned on.

And so what that means

is that it's through once you begin touching your partner.

Once you begin, whether it is non-sexual touch or if it's just making out.

I highly recommend just making out with your partner without necessarily it having to lead to sex.

that then your body kind of thinks, oh, this is hot, right?

I want this.

This feels good.

Suddenly you are in the mood for sex.

And what we know, again, is that when couples have this sex where they start out like, am I in the mood?

Well, I know it's important.

I know sex is healthy for me.

I know sex is important for our relationship.

So I'm going to really give this a try and really

see if we can make, you know, have a good, satisfying sexual experience, that afterwards, it's just as incredible and orgasmic as the sex where maybe they started out thinking, oh, I want to have sex tonight.

I'm really, you know, driven by desire.

And I think that can be an especially helpful message for many women who feel like, you know, I have to kind of just be lying next to my partner and it's not, you know, I'm not going to, if I'm not turned on right away, it means I don't want it.