Dhru Purohit

And there can be times in the relationship even further down the road from that when you're maybe not feeling that hot for your partner all the time.

And so there are a couple of different ways that we need to address that.

And the first is to look at the actual sex that you're having.

Because the reality is that no one craves

bad sex.

And so is it just that you and your partner have gotten into a rut, right?

Is it that you need to go read chapters two and three of my book where I talk about the types of sexual techniques and touch and ways to turn each other on that will lead to better sex, that will lead to more pleasure and

Because pleasure is what leads to more sex, more desire for sex.

So you need to actually look at the sex that you're having already and increase the amount of pleasure there.

And also knowing that we don't all crave the exact same type of sex every single time.

No matter how much you love tacos, no one wants to eat tacos every single night for dinner.

They're going to lose their appeal.

So what we, again, see in the literature is that couples who introduce something new about once a month tend to enjoy higher levels of sexual satisfaction than couples who introduce novelty less frequently than that.

But novelty doesn't mean that you have to be swinging from the chandeliers or, again, going and getting that dominatrix getup.

It just means that you need to introduce – maybe it's a new position.

Maybe it's a new technique.

Maybe it's a better understanding of your body.

Maybe it's introducing a sex toy, right?

All of these things that can just – maybe it's having sex in a different room or at a different time of day or –

before you go out for that huge eight course meal, not afterwards, right?