Dhru Purohit

So if there are these sort of smaller ways that you can improve pleasure, that's going to bring back that desire.

But what's also important, again, goes back to this idea that

If we don't want to have sex with ourselves, we're not going to want to have sex with another person, right?

Meaning if you've lost attraction, if you're not feeling sexy because you're burnt out or because you have resentments in the relationship that you haven't

been able to address with your partner or because you feel sort of overall stuck in life.

You know, again, we tend to think that our sexual desire exists in this siphoned off area of our life that's not tied into that.

But all of those different sources of joy and pleasure, if they're not being

fostered, you are at risk for losing that passion and zing in life, right?

And so it's, am I really losing attraction for my partner?

Or is it just that my central nervous system is completely over-activated

I feel stuck, I'm a little bit resentful of my partner, but don't know how to tell them because society has taught me that I should just be putting up with how I feel and not raising my voice at all.

It's just sort of digging into what are those other factors that have nothing to do with your partner at all, but really are more about yourself.

Exactly.

Exactly.

And that's precisely what I'm trying to say is that it's those forms of micro novelty.

It's not getting the whole paddle and the whole get up.

It's about carving out that time, right?

They tried a different time of day.

That was carving out a time for them where they were, you know, their central nervous systems were calmed.

They had come together in a way where they could really connect.