Diego Perez (Yung Pueblo)

you know like i feel like once my wife and i spent a lot of time cultivating a better relationship between the two of us after that you know there's still like you know family members getting sick like this problem happens over here this problem happens over there and we're just solving problems together that's what like the last two decades you know the last like decade and a half has been for us it's hard but i think the key thing is

when i feel that either her or anyone else is trying to get me to join them in their attention i just remember like actually i don't want to feel like that i want to live in my own energy and it's been really useful because there are times where you know we want to pick a fight with each other but

when i feel that either her or anyone else is trying to get me to join them in their attention i just remember like actually i don't want to feel like that i want to live in my own energy and it's been really useful because there are times where you know we want to pick a fight with each other but

when i feel that either her or anyone else is trying to get me to join them in their attention i just remember like actually i don't want to feel like that i want to live in my own energy and it's been really useful because there are times where you know we want to pick a fight with each other but

whoever is more grounded, if they just remain in their groundedness, it actually helps the whole process be a lot more efficient because you have no one to fight. You're just like, you're just there sitting in your own stress and then the other person helps you, you know, see yourself a little more clearly.

whoever is more grounded, if they just remain in their groundedness, it actually helps the whole process be a lot more efficient because you have no one to fight. You're just like, you're just there sitting in your own stress and then the other person helps you, you know, see yourself a little more clearly.

whoever is more grounded, if they just remain in their groundedness, it actually helps the whole process be a lot more efficient because you have no one to fight. You're just like, you're just there sitting in your own stress and then the other person helps you, you know, see yourself a little more clearly.

Totally. Totally. And it's really helpful. I think like, I think recognizing the moments where I'm like, I can have a little more balance for the two of us and, you know, she can do the same. I think it's a, it's a gift that we give to each other, you know, where it's like, I'd rather lean in my own peace. And then eventually, instead of inviting you into my anger, I'm inviting you into my peace.

Totally. Totally. And it's really helpful. I think like, I think recognizing the moments where I'm like, I can have a little more balance for the two of us and, you know, she can do the same. I think it's a, it's a gift that we give to each other, you know, where it's like, I'd rather lean in my own peace. And then eventually, instead of inviting you into my anger, I'm inviting you into my peace.

Totally. Totally. And it's really helpful. I think like, I think recognizing the moments where I'm like, I can have a little more balance for the two of us and, you know, she can do the same. I think it's a, it's a gift that we give to each other, you know, where it's like, I'd rather lean in my own peace. And then eventually, instead of inviting you into my anger, I'm inviting you into my peace.

You know, I've noticed that the arguments, they just flow like just a little more slowly. Like we'll talk, we're both heated. And then in the middle of talking, there's little bits of pausing where we're still both sitting in our chairs, still both, you know, riddling with tension in the body, but we're being a little more measured about

You know, I've noticed that the arguments, they just flow like just a little more slowly. Like we'll talk, we're both heated. And then in the middle of talking, there's little bits of pausing where we're still both sitting in our chairs, still both, you know, riddling with tension in the body, but we're being a little more measured about

You know, I've noticed that the arguments, they just flow like just a little more slowly. Like we'll talk, we're both heated. And then in the middle of talking, there's little bits of pausing where we're still both sitting in our chairs, still both, you know, riddling with tension in the body, but we're being a little more measured about

am I trying to resolve the argument or am I trying to make it bigger? And that's something that, you know, when we were in our 20s, it was just like, make the argument bigger and bigger and bigger. And now we just let the argument take the time that it needs. And if we need to talk about it another day or, you know, hours later, fine, let's cool off.

am I trying to resolve the argument or am I trying to make it bigger? And that's something that, you know, when we were in our 20s, it was just like, make the argument bigger and bigger and bigger. And now we just let the argument take the time that it needs. And if we need to talk about it another day or, you know, hours later, fine, let's cool off.

am I trying to resolve the argument or am I trying to make it bigger? And that's something that, you know, when we were in our 20s, it was just like, make the argument bigger and bigger and bigger. And now we just let the argument take the time that it needs. And if we need to talk about it another day or, you know, hours later, fine, let's cool off.

But now it's usually just, it doesn't all need to be resolved in this immediate moment. Especially if we both can't see clearly, then we're not going to do that well.

But now it's usually just, it doesn't all need to be resolved in this immediate moment. Especially if we both can't see clearly, then we're not going to do that well.

But now it's usually just, it doesn't all need to be resolved in this immediate moment. Especially if we both can't see clearly, then we're not going to do that well.

I think one of the key things is that you have to work with the universe instead of against it. Our universe is one of motion. Our universe is one of impermanence. That means that the whole universe is this giant river that's just flowing and rushing forward. And if we try to stay static, if we try to stay attached, then that river is just going to knock us down.