Diego Perez

So many times, like one of us may need to do some apologizing, but when we can really see each other, when we can really see where each other is coming from, the tension does melt away.

Oh my gosh.

I've never heard that term.

It sounds so scary.

Predatory listening.

That sounds great.

That's really nice because you're really, really honing in and training yourself to listen.

I think that was one of the things I really struggled with too was just listening growing up.

And I found that mistake and how it was like aggravating situations in the relationship.

And it was clear like, okay, that's the power of being in a relationship.

You do that mirror experience.

is so stunningly clear.

You're so deeply in proximity to another human being that what you're good at and what you're not good at is stunningly clear.

And hopefully you have the time to work on it.

Yeah, I've been using the terminology.

What you're doing in a relationship is you're designing a home.

And we think about it in terms of the material aspects so often, but it's like you're designing a home of like, what is this place going to feel like between the two of us?

Like, how do we show up for each other?

How do we handle arguments?

How do we make sure that