Doctor Mike

Age six, Brooklyn Russian.

But yeah, in Greek, there's seven words for different kinds of love.

I mean, there is eros, there's philos, I mean, philautia, which is brotherly love.

There's agape, which is love of the divine.

There's all these different versions of what love, because love is such a varied thing.

What they all have in common is a will to will the good of the other as other.

That's what it comes down to.

And that's what a successful marriage, what a successful relationship is all about.

That's one of the great mysteries that we actually have, because we've been trying to hack love for a long time.

We're trying to solve love constantly as well.

One of the ways that we try to solve love is with apps, is with dating apps, for example.

People meet on dating apps all the time by trying to curate their dating profile and their desires so I can get it just exactly right.

I can really get myself down and then I can find another person who algorithmically

is matched to me perfectly then i will have solved love but you can't do it that way you actually can't do it that way because there's a complex none that would be like saying i'm gonna i'm going to simulate the the jets versus the dolphins so perfectly that i know exactly what the score is going to be and who's going to win beforehand like you can't do it it can't be do it you can't simulate your cat

What's my cat going to do?

And that's the reason that you love watching the Jets and the Dolphins game is because you can't be simulated because it's complex, not complicated.

That's the reason you love your cat more than you love your toaster is because your cat is not solvable.

Your cat is alive.

And that's the reason you care more about your relationship with your significant other than you do about most other things.

That's why it occupies so much because that mystery, that uncertainty, that uncertainty