Donald Robertson

right when might it be a good idea to always speak your mind to other people and be assertive and when might it be a better idea just to keep your mouth shut why in some situations and know when to fight your battles and so on and it's cognitive flexibility and coping flexibility the ability to view situations from different perspectives and the ability to choose intelligently between different types of coping strategies that really constitute in the same way that i said before that wisdom is more like a skill rather than just a bunch of ideas or opinions that you could hold

right when might it be a good idea to always speak your mind to other people and be assertive and when might it be a better idea just to keep your mouth shut why in some situations and know when to fight your battles and so on and it's cognitive flexibility and coping flexibility the ability to view situations from different perspectives and the ability to choose intelligently between different types of coping strategies that really constitute in the same way that i said before that wisdom is more like a skill rather than just a bunch of ideas or opinions that you could hold

right when might it be a good idea to always speak your mind to other people and be assertive and when might it be a better idea just to keep your mouth shut why in some situations and know when to fight your battles and so on and it's cognitive flexibility and coping flexibility the ability to view situations from different perspectives and the ability to choose intelligently between different types of coping strategies that really constitute in the same way that i said before that wisdom is more like a skill rather than just a bunch of ideas or opinions that you could hold

I think that, to some extent, that's missing from a lot of modern self-improvement literature. And the risk is then that people get techniques that work in some situations, but then they carry on using them rigidly in situations where they're no longer working, they're backfiring. I'll give you an example, right? Any self-help technique is going to backfire in some situations. Mindfulness.

I think that, to some extent, that's missing from a lot of modern self-improvement literature. And the risk is then that people get techniques that work in some situations, but then they carry on using them rigidly in situations where they're no longer working, they're backfiring. I'll give you an example, right? Any self-help technique is going to backfire in some situations. Mindfulness.

I think that, to some extent, that's missing from a lot of modern self-improvement literature. And the risk is then that people get techniques that work in some situations, but then they carry on using them rigidly in situations where they're no longer working, they're backfiring. I'll give you an example, right? Any self-help technique is going to backfire in some situations. Mindfulness.

is some techniques are more robust than others. Mindfulness is a really useful strategy. It works really well, right? But for instance, clients who have health anxiety and are constantly scanning their body for symptoms like, oh, I just noticed, I think I noticed a weird sensation in my chest, right?

is some techniques are more robust than others. Mindfulness is a really useful strategy. It works really well, right? But for instance, clients who have health anxiety and are constantly scanning their body for symptoms like, oh, I just noticed, I think I noticed a weird sensation in my chest, right?

is some techniques are more robust than others. Mindfulness is a really useful strategy. It works really well, right? But for instance, clients who have health anxiety and are constantly scanning their body for symptoms like, oh, I just noticed, I think I noticed a weird sensation in my chest, right?

Practicing mindfulness in some cases could actually just exacerbate or heighten their focus, threat monitoring for symptoms, basically, and paying too much attention to every slight twinge in their body, right?

Practicing mindfulness in some cases could actually just exacerbate or heighten their focus, threat monitoring for symptoms, basically, and paying too much attention to every slight twinge in their body, right?

Practicing mindfulness in some cases could actually just exacerbate or heighten their focus, threat monitoring for symptoms, basically, and paying too much attention to every slight twinge in their body, right?

social anxiety like we know that one of the main correlates of social anxiety is heightened self-focused attention so in fact many self-help techniques that people try to use in social situations actually increase their self-focused attention right so people with social anxiety will typically do things like trying to stand up like tall and straighten their back and look people in the eye

social anxiety like we know that one of the main correlates of social anxiety is heightened self-focused attention so in fact many self-help techniques that people try to use in social situations actually increase their self-focused attention right so people with social anxiety will typically do things like trying to stand up like tall and straighten their back and look people in the eye

social anxiety like we know that one of the main correlates of social anxiety is heightened self-focused attention so in fact many self-help techniques that people try to use in social situations actually increase their self-focused attention right so people with social anxiety will typically do things like trying to stand up like tall and straighten their back and look people in the eye

Because they feel like that makes sense and it should make them more confident. But what they don't realize is often it heightens their self-focused attention unnaturally and that contributes to social anxiety. And it also increases their cognitive load. So they're more likely to kind of feel awkward because they're trying to walk into government at the same time.

Because they feel like that makes sense and it should make them more confident. But what they don't realize is often it heightens their self-focused attention unnaturally and that contributes to social anxiety. And it also increases their cognitive load. So they're more likely to kind of feel awkward because they're trying to walk into government at the same time.

Because they feel like that makes sense and it should make them more confident. But what they don't realize is often it heightens their self-focused attention unnaturally and that contributes to social anxiety. And it also increases their cognitive load. So they're more likely to kind of feel awkward because they're trying to walk into government at the same time.

But getting people to think about the pros and cons of these different strategies is When might it be a good idea? When it might potentially backfire? Is there a good way of doing mindfulness? And maybe there's a bad way of doing mindfulness in some situations. That's the wisdom that allows people.

But getting people to think about the pros and cons of these different strategies is When might it be a good idea? When it might potentially backfire? Is there a good way of doing mindfulness? And maybe there's a bad way of doing mindfulness in some situations. That's the wisdom that allows people.