Donna Ashworth

Either do it in front of them or find a way to find something that they can watch with someone else saying it or doing it.

Because they're so used to your voice, maybe in a nagging way or they think it's nagging, you know, tidy your room or whatever, that they just go into a mode when you start talking.

I can't imagine you nagging.

I try not to.

I nag my husband constantly.

Oh, no, I'm the full human package.

Right.

I've got it all going on.

All of the sides.

I can be petty, I can be angry, I can be jealous, I can be resentful, but I don't choose it.

So I've learned to watch my thoughts and patterns and behaviours and I flip them really quickly.

I see it coming in and I think, right, what's going on with you?

Why do you feel like that?

And then I flip it around and I don't choose to keep it.

Because we all have these thoughts, they come into your head, you can't help them.

They were put there the first time the world broke your heart, the first time somebody told you you weren't good enough, the first time somebody, you know, ridiculed you and humiliated you, you took that on board, made a voice in your own head that has stayed with you forevermore going, you're rubbish.

You're useless.

You can't do that.

And our generation, especially and before us.

So I think there's changes in the new generation coming up.