Dr. Adi Jaffe

I'm on your podcast. We all know we need to watch what we eat in order to keep our well-being and our health. We also need to watch what we eat in our head, right? So not just in our bodies, but also our brains. And so explore, accept, transform says, if you got a negative outcome, if something happened in your life that you don't like, most of us try to ignore it. or change it.

I say you're not ready to change it because you don't know what drove that. And so explore is about identifying those underlying issues. And we'll get into the other parts of it later. But for somebody who finds themselves in a situation with their back against the wall,

I say you're not ready to change it because you don't know what drove that. And so explore is about identifying those underlying issues. And we'll get into the other parts of it later. But for somebody who finds themselves in a situation with their back against the wall,

I say you're not ready to change it because you don't know what drove that. And so explore is about identifying those underlying issues. And we'll get into the other parts of it later. But for somebody who finds themselves in a situation with their back against the wall,

pause before you try to change a lot before you try to brush it under understand why you just found yourself there right track back like you just talked to us about starting out moving as a child and and having all these needs to be popular and be accepted track back why your behavior just took you to this end point understand and i give you a model how to do that in the book understand what needs to be changed because that's the best learning opportunity you do that early you will never end up in a situation where you're about to lose everything

pause before you try to change a lot before you try to brush it under understand why you just found yourself there right track back like you just talked to us about starting out moving as a child and and having all these needs to be popular and be accepted track back why your behavior just took you to this end point understand and i give you a model how to do that in the book understand what needs to be changed because that's the best learning opportunity you do that early you will never end up in a situation where you're about to lose everything

pause before you try to change a lot before you try to brush it under understand why you just found yourself there right track back like you just talked to us about starting out moving as a child and and having all these needs to be popular and be accepted track back why your behavior just took you to this end point understand and i give you a model how to do that in the book understand what needs to be changed because that's the best learning opportunity you do that early you will never end up in a situation where you're about to lose everything

So the way I opened Sparrow, Sparrow stands for stimulus, perception, activation, response, and outcome. Sparrow. Most people come to me after a negative outcome. That's that back against the wall moment, right? Yeah. fight with the wife, said she's gonna leave them. They lost a job. One of my clients literally fell off a 30-foot retaining wall while drunk in the middle of the night, almost died.

So the way I opened Sparrow, Sparrow stands for stimulus, perception, activation, response, and outcome. Sparrow. Most people come to me after a negative outcome. That's that back against the wall moment, right? Yeah. fight with the wife, said she's gonna leave them. They lost a job. One of my clients literally fell off a 30-foot retaining wall while drunk in the middle of the night, almost died.

So the way I opened Sparrow, Sparrow stands for stimulus, perception, activation, response, and outcome. Sparrow. Most people come to me after a negative outcome. That's that back against the wall moment, right? Yeah. fight with the wife, said she's gonna leave them. They lost a job. One of my clients literally fell off a 30-foot retaining wall while drunk in the middle of the night, almost died.

Bad, bad experiences. And so they come to me at a negative outcome. In their head, so I'll go back to Sparrow, stimulus, perception, activation, response, outcome. Response comes right before outcome. The response is the behavior. What did you do? So they say, I went drinking. I blacked out. I almost killed myself. I need to stop drinking.

Bad, bad experiences. And so they come to me at a negative outcome. In their head, so I'll go back to Sparrow, stimulus, perception, activation, response, outcome. Response comes right before outcome. The response is the behavior. What did you do? So they say, I went drinking. I blacked out. I almost killed myself. I need to stop drinking.

Bad, bad experiences. And so they come to me at a negative outcome. In their head, so I'll go back to Sparrow, stimulus, perception, activation, response, outcome. Response comes right before outcome. The response is the behavior. What did you do? So they say, I went drinking. I blacked out. I almost killed myself. I need to stop drinking.

Or my wife found out that I watch porn behind her back all the time, or I cheated on her. The response was a cheating or the response with the porn. I need to stop doing the thing. What they miss is a stimulus perception activation piece that come before it. And so they get caught in this cycle. I did something bad. I had a bad outcome. I tried to change the behavior. It doesn't succeed.

Or my wife found out that I watch porn behind her back all the time, or I cheated on her. The response was a cheating or the response with the porn. I need to stop doing the thing. What they miss is a stimulus perception activation piece that come before it. And so they get caught in this cycle. I did something bad. I had a bad outcome. I tried to change the behavior. It doesn't succeed.

Or my wife found out that I watch porn behind her back all the time, or I cheated on her. The response was a cheating or the response with the porn. I need to stop doing the thing. What they miss is a stimulus perception activation piece that come before it. And so they get caught in this cycle. I did something bad. I had a bad outcome. I tried to change the behavior. It doesn't succeed.

I get the negative outcome again and they get caught and they don't understand why they're failing.

I get the negative outcome again and they get caught and they don't understand why they're failing.

I get the negative outcome again and they get caught and they don't understand why they're failing.

Yeah. Like in your situation, I'm over committing. I'm saying yes too much to people. I need to say no to people more. Sounds so simple. It's like, oh, duh, thank you. Now you just help. I'm the best psychologist on the face of the planet, right?