Dr. Aditi Nerurkar

Now, resilience doesn't function in a vacuum.

You need a little bit of stress, that healthy positive stress for resilience to show itself.

What happens though is that that word resilience, you and I hear it and others who are listening to this conversation may hear the word and have a visceral response because it's gotten a really bad rap over the past several years.

The word resilience is a positive connotation, but it feels very negative when you hear it.

And the reason it feels negative now, you're like, oh, don't tell me to be resilient.

It's because that definition has changed and morphed societally.

We've moved away from true resilience towards toxic resilience.

And so what is true resilience?

True resilience, it's like, like I said, it's your innate biology.

We all have that ability to be resilient.

It honors boundaries.

It honors your human limitations for rest and recovery.

And it really focuses on self-compassion and leaning into that versus toxic resilience.

Toxic resilience is when you and I hear the word resilience, immediately you cringe.

That's toxic resilience.

It's a mind over matter mindset.

It's productivity at all costs.

It's like all systems go all the time.

It's the energizer bunny here in the US, you know, just keep going.

In the UK, keep calm and carry on.