Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

Like, and it's a kind of a silly question to even ask you because it's sort of a hypothetical, right?

I think it's kind of a, yeah.

And at the same time, it sounds like you've learned a lot about surviving in the corporate world and, and you've worked at a lot of different places, seen a lot of different corporate cultures, been through some very interesting interview processes.

People didn't even tell their fiance for years that they, and they like the stories of, they would just leave the house every day for eight hours, nine hours, 10 hours, just go to a public library and then would come back home.

And then their parents would deposit money into their bank account, like a salary for years.

Yeah.

Yeah, go ahead.

Sorry.

That's really well said.

I think I love the, so I think there's some things that, you know, like we said, your situation is a little bit different, but I think there's some things that

I think are absolutely like translatable, right?

So there's some things that are specific to your situation and some things that aren't, I think telling people it's so interesting.

It's such a simple thing, but it's huge, right?

So you open yourself up to receiving help, which I know is hard for a lot of people, but there's even a lot of studies that show that, um,

so the best way to form a bond with someone is not to help them.

So if you help them, they usually feel indebted.

And that creates like a negative emotional valence between the two people.

Right.

Cause like the person that you helped, like they feel grateful, but they also like feel bad.

So now it's like, now like one person in the relationship feels bad, which is not actually how you create a friendship.