Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

So oftentimes in common definitions, what we'll say is countertransference is the way that the therapist feels about the patient and the patient and the transference is the way that the patient feels about the therapist.

Technically, the definition is different.

It's the response to the transference.

So I sort of felt some of that where, like, I can see that there's something about her constellation of things which evokes some of my projections.

And I think her description of underappreciated overachievers, really, if she wants to write a book, that should be the title right there.

And it'll do great.

And I think that there are certain qualities, like there are types of us, right?

That we routinely evoke certain reactions from other people.

Just because we're evoking a reaction doesn't mean that we're bad.

There's something consistently happening there.

And I think that's what she ran across.

The reason that I tried to bring it up is because I think if you're someone who routinely gets the short end of the stick...

You really... It's... It's... Can be helpful and can be good to think about yourself as a victim.

Right?

But she sort of says, like, I used to view myself that way.

Now I view myself as the hero.

As you all know, if you watch our content, we think both of those... That's a journey.

I'm the victim.

I'm a loser.

I'm a beta.