Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

Oh, my God.

Love damages more lives than hate does IMO.

Yeah.

And maybe that's not that's just selection bias for who I end up seeing.

But right.

Exactly.

Falling in love with the wrong person or at the wrong time is a really great way to ruin your entire life.

So do you have any thoughts about if people are jumping ahead in conversations, if they're having difficulty attending to a conversation?

How do you work with those people?

Yeah, I know you're a therapist who works with neurodivergent people.

When you say don't take notes when you go to coffee with a friend.

you know, and, and, and that's where sometimes, so I know it sounds kind of weird, but I actually sometimes do take notes when I go to coffee with a friend and I find that it is not always, but sometimes it's an indicator of like how much you value what they're saying.

Like I'm, I'm right this shit down, you know?

So, so let me just understand what's going on and, and, and then I'll, I'll start taking notes.

But, um,

Yeah.

So so I I'm totally with you on the fidget to what I found is that when I'm doing psychotherapy with patients with ADHD and we're not when we're doing the more psychodynamic style.

So when we're like talking about your past and talking about your feelings and stuff like that, as opposed to like, let's learn certain skills.

Right.

What I found is that I would take walks with them and that works great.