Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

So you usually like proprioception and I'm sure you're familiar with like sensory swings and stuff like that for children on the spectrum.

Yeah.

Using your body and kids will spin around and they'll start fidgeting and they'll start wiggling and like whatever.

So I think giving them some opportunity to really use their body I think goes a long way with conversations especially.

Yeah.

So when I have patients who are struggling because they're having like relationship problems or whatever and they've got ADHD or if their partner has ADHD and they're coming into the office, one of the best tips that I will give them is like go for a walk when you're talking about something important and you'll be amazed at how much easier it is to pay attention.

Yeah, that was something I don't know if you got this in your training, but like, you know, I remember getting a lot of specific training about how to set up the chairs in my office.

You know, like don't sit across from someone because you sit across from like people that you are trying to sign a peace treaty with.

Right.

There's there's a lot of opposition there.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So I think one thing that helped me a lot in my marriage was when I started having conversations with my wife that were a little bit difficult, I would sit next to her and then also hold hands or something like that.

Because then, like, if you're in a relationship, you'll start, you know, doing things like that.

Yeah.

And it really helped a lot.

Like, I think it completely changes the feel of the conversation.

Whereas, like, we need to talk and, like, let's go and, like, go to dinner and stuff like that.

Yeah, that's great.

So I think the challenge is that, you know, if you're trying to pay attention into a conversation and it's not your romantic partner, then, you know, don't put your head on their shoulder.