Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanojia
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The second arrow is the arrow that I shoot at myself.
Because I got hit by the first one.
You're so dumb, I threw, I was ahead in that game of Dota and I did something stupid.
It is the suffering that you pile on top.
It is the association that you attach to the event.
Now that I'm dumped, now it means I'm unlovable.
Now it means I'm a loser, right?
Getting dumped doesn't make you a loser.
That is what you attach to getting dumped.
Maybe the reason that you got dumped is because it turns out you're dating a lesbian.
That has no reflection on you.
Maybe the reason that you got dumped is because a person has severe depression and is not interested in a relationship and it has nothing to do with you.
The second arrow is the arrow that we shoot at ourselves.
It is your response to bad things happening to you.