Dr. Alok (Dr. K)

The loop has to be engaging.

So in your own life, if you are trying to figure out how to do anything, it doesn't matter what it is.

Focus on the gameplay loop itself.

Focus on your experience of doing the thing, not whether the thing is good or bad.

Give you all a couple of really simple examples.

So I've worked with a fair number of people who are incels or red pillars or whatever, and they really struggle with dating.

And what they really try to do is enjoy, like they try to date and it doesn't work well.

And they think, oh my God, this person doesn't find me attractive.

I don't find them attractive, but then you can change the way your experience of that date.

You can look at that date and you can say, okay, I'm going to go on this date and it may work out.

It may not work out, but Hey, it's an opportunity to get to know someone.

It's an opportunity to practice being on a date.

There are all kinds of opportunities that,

in on a date that have nothing to do with getting laid at the end of the night, finding your forever person, getting oxytocin.

It is all entirely based on your framing.

It is entirely based on how you see the gameplay loop.

And the problem right now is that most people have a fundamental gameplay loop in their regular life that sucks.

And they think that that is static.

But this is the cool thing.

This is the really cool thing about a human brain is we can change our experience of an experience by changing our attitude towards the experience literally.