Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K)

So now the world that we live in is one where since we have such an easy emotional inspiration at our fingertips, which corrects our original emotional driver for improvement, fixes it, right?

So if I'm improving because I feel dejected and I no longer feel dejected, I don't want to improve.

And what has your brain learned is the primary way to deal with dejection, watch an inspirational video on the internet.

Done.

Simple.

So this is in this person is spot on because now what's going on is there's this.

I want you all to understand this really, really well.

OK, so this person is saying, OK, I'm frustrated.

Don't just tell me to put myself out there.

Fair enough.

We're not going to just tell you to put yourself out there.

The first thing that you need to understand is this cycle is completely independent and has nothing to do with the process of improvement.

We could substitute with this with, I feel unloved in the morning and I need my partner to tell me I love you, right?

So if we have an emotional, if something is missing in us emotionally, we need some kind of emotional reinforcement.

So then what happens, this person even says, look, this person says,

I'm 27 now and I got, for example, I'll watch a video, stop comparing yourself to others.

And it makes sense in theory.

But the moment that I go out and try to interact, those same thoughts of self-judgment in comparison to start kicking in, right?

So this is like, this is literally what happens.

Because the moment that you go and try to interact with someone, the feelings of dejection arise again.