Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K)

Because watching inspirational videos on the internet does not process feelings of being a loser.

It just makes them go away temporarily.

Then you go out into the world and these feelings will come up again.

So I don't know if this kind of makes sense, but if you go out and interact in the world and there's a feeling that always comes up, I feel anxious, I feel concerned, I feel worried, I feel uncomfortable.

If this feeling is always coming up, it lives within you and must be dealt with directly.

As long as that feeling is there, it's going to keep popping up and no amount of watching inspirational videos is going to change that.

So this is not even about self-improvement.

This is about managing your emotions internally.

So there are two or three different methods that you can do to fix this.

The first is that you can go back to the original insult.

So these are like sort of techniques of like trauma processing.

We go into a bunch of detail in this in Dr. K's guide if y'all want more like info.

There's like 10 hours of this stuff in there.

But here's the basic idea, okay?

So in that moment where you get rejected by someone, there is one experience that your brain forms conclusions based off of.

So if I get rejected, that is just a rejection.

That's all it is.

One rejection.

Happens all the time.

But if you're not careful, your brain will learn from that rejection.