Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K)

This is how men get manipulated all the time because the moment that someone figures out

Oh, if I get angry at him, he will buy me jewelry.

They will.

You're just reinforcing them getting angry with you.

So then they will create emotions for you over and over and over again.

They will push your buttons so that you become a machine and you offer certain behaviors.

Now, in the case of the 24 year old improver, you are given a ton of anxiety and uncertainty about the world.

You won't be able to date.

You won't be able to make money.

You won't be able to live this beautiful fitness influencer life.

And this is what you want.

And instead, what you need to do is improve.

So there is a certain anxiety.

There is a fear of uncertainty.

And you think to yourself, OK, if I get better, if I get better, if I get better, if I get better, if I keep on getting better, then my chances of more money, more sex and more everything improve.

So you just start relentlessly chasing that.

And the reason that it's never satisfying is because there isn't a particular goal.

If your goal is to be better so that the future is less risky, when does that end?

When do you feel accomplished?

When do you feel content?