Dr. Alok Kanojia

So if I violate one of your boundaries and then I express embarrassment, that's a really important empathic signal.

And now we have all of this content on the internet telling people to be relentlessly confident.

And when they become relentlessly confident, they no longer express embarrassment.

Embarrassment is a really important signal to send.

So I'm going to reverse Russian Dallas because I was all over the place.

So you asked about a roadmap.

Then I gave the example of anxiety.

Then I gave the example of embarrassment as another emotion that's helpful.

And now you're asking a question.

So we're going to do it in reverse order.

Sure.

But I want to get back to that roadmap because I think it's a beautiful question.

I wrote it down.

We haven't forgotten.

Great.

Let's talk about the ambiguous interactions.

This is fascinating.

So I saw a really cool study where when two people are flirting and that's taped and a neutral observer is watching it, they accurately detect flirting only about 30% of the time.

Different studies show 24 to 42%.

You're saying ambiguity is a problem.