Dr. Alok Kanojia

It's easy to ignore a lot of other stuff.

And then if you look at the physiology and neuroscience of the sexual act, when we're engaged in that act, we're not feeling anxious, we're not afraid, unless the anxiety is so overpowering that we are not able to engage in the act, which absolutely happens.

But generally speaking, it shuts down all of our negative emotional circuitry.

Right.

Absolutely.

But here's something really interesting.

So 58% of women say that one of the top three things that increase their libido and desire for sex is men helping out with housework.

Yeah.

And cognitive duties like doing shopping and stuff like that.

That's 58% of people say top three, trust, safety, and helping out with housework.

Yeah.

That's the real foreplay.

Yeah.

But yeah, so basically the way pornography works is that, you know, if I'm feeling bad, there's just so much powerful circuitry to make those emotions go away.

So I think the number one thing is about emotion management.

And so then what we're starting to see is that, I remember earlier when you said the smoke detector, the alarm was going off, but if I were to ask you, why didn't you deal with whatever was on fire?

What was your experience then?

So you started medication, then that started a path, maybe you were on it for a little while, but why weren't you able to fix the problem before that?

Yeah.

So I think being well-adjusted to an unhealthy society doesn't make you healthy.