Dr. Alok Kanojia

That's it.

So you're normal.

It's normal, but it sure as hell ain't healthy.

Exactly.

And so I think what I see is something really similar with people who –

with pornography is there's a lot of stuff going on in their life where there are two conditions.

One is they don't know it's a problem, right?

So men, there's an interesting phenomenon called normative male alexithymia.

So normative means it's normal.

Male means it happens to men.

And alexithymia means colorblindness to your emotional state.

So we're actually conditioned.

Some of it is biological, hormonal,

but we're actually conditioned to suppress our feelings.

So we don't even know when there are fires going on, right?

Everything in your life is burning down around you and you're just numb to it.

Just because you're numb, right?

So let's be clear about the term numb.

So if you go to the dentist-

and you get numbed up, and they remove your tooth, just because you don't feel your tooth being removed doesn't mean that there isn't damage taking place.