Dr. Alok Kanojia

And so this creates a really and maybe that is more of a need because we're talking about life and death.

But what we're seeing a lot of is a lot of people when they want something, their inability to tolerate not getting what they want is so low that they convert it to a need.

or they have discovered that the way to get what I want is to call it a need.

Absolutely, right?

And it feels so burdensome.

I love this imagery of a cinder block, right?

Because when I'm sharing all my needs with you, I'm absolutely outsourcing that responsibility to you.

And so I think it's like, it's really, really dangerous, right?

Yeah, it's a dangerous game, right?

Absolutely, right?

So that's what we see with people who have like borderline personality disorder and stuff like that, right?

So you have all these intense feelings that, and I think it's everything you said and the things that I said, right?

Sometimes it's, I don't know how to get this done without you, which is why I need you to do it.

And the real challenge with that is that it engenders dependence, right?

And what's starting to happen is,

Now, when I'm giving you this cinder block, you have cinder blocks, too.

You have your own cinder blocks.

And oftentimes, you're carrying your own cinder blocks, and now you're carrying my cinder blocks, too.

And that is something that can work in the short term, but is absolutely going to weigh you down long term.

Absolutely, yeah.