Dr. Alok Kanojia

I can hang on to it for you.

I can suppress it.

I'll shove it down.

I know how to bury that.

I'm good at that.

And oftentimes women don't do that kind of emotional labor nearly as much as men do.

That's our day in and day out.

So what can actually happen is if you're a dude...

And you go from zero to 100, that is oftentimes too much for someone to handle, right?

Especially your female partner.

And it kind of gives them the ick.

I hear this a lot with like dating where, you know, now like men are trying to be a little bit more emotionally vulnerable and stuff like that.

And just think about it, right?

If you're a woman listening to this, if your husband showed up and just started crying at like 100%,

and did that like six days in a row, right?

How would that make you feel?

Would you be like, is this okay?

I don't know what the fuck is going on.

And that's also why one of the worst things I think you can ever do is confess your love.

So when you confess your love, you're going, you've had all this love that's been piling up, right?