Dr. Alok Kanojia

And so the more that we get disconnected from ourselves, the harder it becomes to find our purpose because the world can't tell you what your purpose is. They've been doing it and you've been listening and look at where it got you. So the way to find purpose is to fundamentally reconnect with yourself. And that becomes hard because you don't like what's in there, right?

Because you have ignored yourself for a while and you're not super happy with the person that you are deep down inside. And you recognize that there are some weaknesses that you try to keep at bay because other people sometimes see them too. And they're like, hey, you should really drink less. And you're like, no, I'm fine. It's not a problem. And then that evokes that denial. Right.

Because you have ignored yourself for a while and you're not super happy with the person that you are deep down inside. And you recognize that there are some weaknesses that you try to keep at bay because other people sometimes see them too. And they're like, hey, you should really drink less. And you're like, no, I'm fine. It's not a problem. And then that evokes that denial. Right.

Because you have ignored yourself for a while and you're not super happy with the person that you are deep down inside. And you recognize that there are some weaknesses that you try to keep at bay because other people sometimes see them too. And they're like, hey, you should really drink less. And you're like, no, I'm fine. It's not a problem. And then that evokes that denial. Right.

So it really starts with connecting back with yourself. And we know because pornography addiction, one of the two variables that correlates with pornography addiction is meaninglessness in life. So if we're really thinking about overcoming that addiction, you have to have a good enough reason to resist all those impulses. You can't just cure addiction in a vacuum.

So it really starts with connecting back with yourself. And we know because pornography addiction, one of the two variables that correlates with pornography addiction is meaninglessness in life. So if we're really thinking about overcoming that addiction, you have to have a good enough reason to resist all those impulses. You can't just cure addiction in a vacuum.

So it really starts with connecting back with yourself. And we know because pornography addiction, one of the two variables that correlates with pornography addiction is meaninglessness in life. So if we're really thinking about overcoming that addiction, you have to have a good enough reason to resist all those impulses. You can't just cure addiction in a vacuum.

There's got to be like motivation behind it, really something that is worth the pain. And that's where dharma comes in. Right. So when you are overcoming an addiction, that process is filled with pain, not pleasure. So you need some fuel that will make you stick with that. And that's purpose.

There's got to be like motivation behind it, really something that is worth the pain. And that's where dharma comes in. Right. So when you are overcoming an addiction, that process is filled with pain, not pleasure. So you need some fuel that will make you stick with that. And that's purpose.

There's got to be like motivation behind it, really something that is worth the pain. And that's where dharma comes in. Right. So when you are overcoming an addiction, that process is filled with pain, not pleasure. So you need some fuel that will make you stick with that. And that's purpose.

Is that accurate? That's accurate. There's only one tiny inaccuracy, which is that you said it's a small thing, right? It's a tiny way. It's not small. It's the whole nine yards. It's everything. It's 100%. If you can do that. So I want you to think about all the things that you're doing in life that you are unhappy with.

Is that accurate? That's accurate. There's only one tiny inaccuracy, which is that you said it's a small thing, right? It's a tiny way. It's not small. It's the whole nine yards. It's everything. It's 100%. If you can do that. So I want you to think about all the things that you're doing in life that you are unhappy with.

Is that accurate? That's accurate. There's only one tiny inaccuracy, which is that you said it's a small thing, right? It's a tiny way. It's not small. It's the whole nine yards. It's everything. It's 100%. If you can do that. So I want you to think about all the things that you're doing in life that you are unhappy with.

Every single one of those things that you are doing is because you cannot tolerate discomfort. Why am I not going to the gym today? Because I'd rather sit on my . It is the discomfort of going to the gym that keeps you at home. If you think about diet, right? What's the problem with diet?

Every single one of those things that you are doing is because you cannot tolerate discomfort. Why am I not going to the gym today? Because I'd rather sit on my . It is the discomfort of going to the gym that keeps you at home. If you think about diet, right? What's the problem with diet?

Every single one of those things that you are doing is because you cannot tolerate discomfort. Why am I not going to the gym today? Because I'd rather sit on my . It is the discomfort of going to the gym that keeps you at home. If you think about diet, right? What's the problem with diet?

Well, I like the way that this makes me feel, and I don't like the way that this other thing, I don't like the taste of salad. It's uncomfortable, I don't like it. So all of our negative behaviors, come from the inability to tolerate discomfort. And so if you can get really, really good at that, it is enough.

Well, I like the way that this makes me feel, and I don't like the way that this other thing, I don't like the taste of salad. It's uncomfortable, I don't like it. So all of our negative behaviors, come from the inability to tolerate discomfort. And so if you can get really, really good at that, it is enough.

Well, I like the way that this makes me feel, and I don't like the way that this other thing, I don't like the taste of salad. It's uncomfortable, I don't like it. So all of our negative behaviors, come from the inability to tolerate discomfort. And so if you can get really, really good at that, it is enough.

So I want you to take any problem, anyone who's listening to this, think about the problems that you really struggle with. When you struggle with those problems, what is it that you're running away from? It's discomfort. And if you can just learn to tolerate discomfort, you don't even have to fix it. That's the other thing a lot of people think they have to fix their problems.