Dr. Alok Kanojia

But generally speaking, I don't advocate for any regular use. So my kids will be screen free, generally speaking, four days out of the week. And I actually rather like a binge approach to screen usage where we'll like plan something. Right. So like this Saturday, what are we going to do as a family? We're going to go play putt putt.

And the next weekend, it's like we're going to have a Smash Brothers party or a Mario Kart family party. You know, we're going to play for like three hours until bedtime and we can stay up extra late. So I think that there's a way to like model usage. And it's kind of like the porn addiction where we don't want second screen usage.

And the next weekend, it's like we're going to have a Smash Brothers party or a Mario Kart family party. You know, we're going to play for like three hours until bedtime and we can stay up extra late. So I think that there's a way to like model usage. And it's kind of like the porn addiction where we don't want second screen usage.

And the next weekend, it's like we're going to have a Smash Brothers party or a Mario Kart family party. You know, we're going to play for like three hours until bedtime and we can stay up extra late. So I think that there's a way to like model usage. And it's kind of like the porn addiction where we don't want second screen usage.

The most damaging screen usage is the screen usage that permeates our day. But keeping it localized to a particular area and time for a particular goal, I think is totally fine.

The most damaging screen usage is the screen usage that permeates our day. But keeping it localized to a particular area and time for a particular goal, I think is totally fine.

The most damaging screen usage is the screen usage that permeates our day. But keeping it localized to a particular area and time for a particular goal, I think is totally fine.

So it's a great point. 40% of kids, I think, grow up in single parent households. The numbers are not in your favor. And it's a really good point that is it the screens themselves or is it also? And the answer is it's both.

So it's a great point. 40% of kids, I think, grow up in single parent households. The numbers are not in your favor. And it's a really good point that is it the screens themselves or is it also? And the answer is it's both.

So it's a great point. 40% of kids, I think, grow up in single parent households. The numbers are not in your favor. And it's a really good point that is it the screens themselves or is it also? And the answer is it's both.

It's the screen because the screen does have a particularly damaging effect, but it's also the circumstances and risk factors of the household that contribute to that mental health decline.

It's the screen because the screen does have a particularly damaging effect, but it's also the circumstances and risk factors of the household that contribute to that mental health decline.

It's the screen because the screen does have a particularly damaging effect, but it's also the circumstances and risk factors of the household that contribute to that mental health decline.

No amount of fixing your life will make that kid go away. So like when I work with people who are, I see you smiling. So like when I work with people who've been traumatized, they will build amazing lives, but they still carry that kid with them. And the kid will come out at times.

No amount of fixing your life will make that kid go away. So like when I work with people who are, I see you smiling. So like when I work with people who've been traumatized, they will build amazing lives, but they still carry that kid with them. And the kid will come out at times.

There'll be particular times where if I'm a little bit, like if I like treat you in the wrong way, like you'll notice that you feel like that kid again. When you're idle, you feel like that kid again. So that psychological, that neuronal wiring is there, right? So you can build all this wonderful stuff and there's authenticity. It's not like you're faking it.

There'll be particular times where if I'm a little bit, like if I like treat you in the wrong way, like you'll notice that you feel like that kid again. When you're idle, you feel like that kid again. So that psychological, that neuronal wiring is there, right? So you can build all this wonderful stuff and there's authenticity. It's not like you're faking it.

This is a really common misconception that are you faking? No, you're genuinely confident. You're genuinely authentic. You can't fake it and get to where you are. And at the same time, the wounds that we experience leave scars. Yeah, 100%. And the real way to heal is to go back to that moment and like deal with that kid, right?

This is a really common misconception that are you faking? No, you're genuinely confident. You're genuinely authentic. You can't fake it and get to where you are. And at the same time, the wounds that we experience leave scars. Yeah, 100%. And the real way to heal is to go back to that moment and like deal with that kid, right?

You have to dismantle the worldview that you have, which is how you heal trauma. Is when we get traumatized, we adapt. In order to come out of this situation, I need to learn this particular thing. So some kids that I've worked with adapt by becoming invisible. That's what I did. I got bullied a lot. So what do I do? I learn how to be invisible. Some people adapt by being successful.