Dr. Alok Kanojia

You have to dismantle the worldview that you have, which is how you heal trauma. Is when we get traumatized, we adapt. In order to come out of this situation, I need to learn this particular thing. So some kids that I've worked with adapt by becoming invisible. That's what I did. I got bullied a lot. So what do I do? I learn how to be invisible. Some people adapt by being successful.

So if I'm successful, it's an antidote to my shame. I don't have to be ashamed anymore if I'm successful. But that old injury is still there.

So if I'm successful, it's an antidote to my shame. I don't have to be ashamed anymore if I'm successful. But that old injury is still there.

Exactly. Yeah. Right? So let's understand a couple things. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, Stephen, beautiful. So a couple of things to understand. We think about healing as a – is one spectrum, right? So if I'm at negative 100, I can't also be a positive 100. Those two things cancel out. That's not how it works.

Exactly. Yeah. Right? So let's understand a couple things. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, Stephen, beautiful. So a couple of things to understand. We think about healing as a – is one spectrum, right? So if I'm at negative 100, I can't also be a positive 100. Those two things cancel out. That's not how it works.

So if I give you a glass of water, and then I piss in it, and then I add sugar, it doesn't remove the piss. These are both independent things. This is what tends to happen. This is what we don't understand about trauma. Removing the piss requires removing the piss. No amount of sugar will take it out of the drink.

So if I give you a glass of water, and then I piss in it, and then I add sugar, it doesn't remove the piss. These are both independent things. This is what tends to happen. This is what we don't understand about trauma. Removing the piss requires removing the piss. No amount of sugar will take it out of the drink.

So no amount of, this is mistake number one, no amount of building something good will remove something bad. Okay. So healing, and it's also like, you know, if I break a leg, no amount of bench press will heal my leg. Like I can build as much as I want to. I can fix my hair. I can brush my teeth, but the leg is broken. The leg is broken. Same is true of the mind. Okay. Second thing,

So no amount of, this is mistake number one, no amount of building something good will remove something bad. Okay. So healing, and it's also like, you know, if I break a leg, no amount of bench press will heal my leg. Like I can build as much as I want to. I can fix my hair. I can brush my teeth, but the leg is broken. The leg is broken. Same is true of the mind. Okay. Second thing,

is what happens is we have like our consciousness is divided. Now we're gonna get kind of technical and off the rails. So we have all of these like dormant pieces of our consciousness that activate in certain situations. And all you have to do is pay attention to yourself in a five minute period and you'll see this. So when I walk into a bathroom that I've never used before,

is what happens is we have like our consciousness is divided. Now we're gonna get kind of technical and off the rails. So we have all of these like dormant pieces of our consciousness that activate in certain situations. And all you have to do is pay attention to yourself in a five minute period and you'll see this. So when I walk into a bathroom that I've never used before,

Then I start thinking about, okay, where's the flush? Where's the toilet? How do I use this toilet? You know, so like I'll activate dormant information all the time. So if someone asks me what's, you know, the quadratic equation, that information is there and dormant in my mind and it gets activated.

Then I start thinking about, okay, where's the flush? Where's the toilet? How do I use this toilet? You know, so like I'll activate dormant information all the time. So if someone asks me what's, you know, the quadratic equation, that information is there and dormant in my mind and it gets activated.

Right? So the injury just goes dormant. Then there are certain things that happen that can trigger that injury. That's what we call triggers, right? So if I'm traumatized, if we look at like PTSD, and I've been traumatized by, you know, a bomb going off, Literally, my brain has certain circuits that scans my perceptual environment and decides what to activate.

Right? So the injury just goes dormant. Then there are certain things that happen that can trigger that injury. That's what we call triggers, right? So if I'm traumatized, if we look at like PTSD, and I've been traumatized by, you know, a bomb going off, Literally, my brain has certain circuits that scans my perceptual environment and decides what to activate.

So there are ways stillness makes you feel small. And fuck you if you're ever going to be small again. Never again, never again, never again. I would bet money that if you sit by yourself and you're not occupied, right, that's why you have to watch crime shows. Because if you don't watch crime shows, you're going to be still. And if you're still, that's unacceptable. Okay?

So there are ways stillness makes you feel small. And fuck you if you're ever going to be small again. Never again, never again, never again. I would bet money that if you sit by yourself and you're not occupied, right, that's why you have to watch crime shows. Because if you don't watch crime shows, you're going to be still. And if you're still, that's unacceptable. Okay?

So dormant things have to be healed where they belong. You don't need to worry, by the way. It's in your karma. It's going to get healed and it's coming.

So dormant things have to be healed where they belong. You don't need to worry, by the way. It's in your karma. It's going to get healed and it's coming.

And people would kill for that, right? So many people out there are like, oh, man, I would love to be you. No, you guys don't want to be Stephen. I know you think you do, but this is the crazy thing. We each as human beings have our own journey. And are you privileged and should you be grateful and should people aspire to be you? Absolutely, but they don't want to be you.