Dr. Alok Kanojia

Second thing is anything that you want that is a comparison.

That is born of the ego.

The ego is what defines you, right?

So we can say...

tenured professor, we can say associate part-time instructor.

And so any comparison requires a definition.

Does that kind of make sense?

Yeah.

Like, so all of the gold medalists, silver medalists, bronze medalists, that's a comparative thing.

If I say I'm a silver medalist, then my desire for the gold medal can come out of the ego.

Does that kind of make sense?

Yeah.

It's not that it's not real, right?

So I agree with you 100%, and I think there's a couple of important things.

So proving yourself is not wholly wrong, but understand that it is the ego.

That's what it's going to gratify, right?

So if you have an ego of, I am a loser, by all means, so this is part of the process, I have people in my office who are losers, for lack of a better term, 29 years old,

living at home, playing video games all day, watching pornography, no job, dropped out of college.

And so what they want more than anything else is to be a winner.

And so my work involves two steps.