Dr. Alok Kanojia

Right.

So this is, as you know, things are multifactorial.

It's rarely one thing or another thing.

So I think a lot of people picked up ground with awareness of feelings.

As a psychiatrist, you know, I work with people who were unaware of

of the family dynamics going on in their life, in their household, unaware of their emotions, growing up with things like avoidant attachment and having difficulty forming connections.

So I think it is always good to be more aware.

I think actually awareness is probably the single factor that correlates the most with success and happiness.

The challenge, the really subtle thing, is that talking about emotions

isn't the same as actually being aware of them.

So I think what started to happen is a lot of this dialogue around trauma, a lot of this dialogue around feelings has actually been hijacked in very subtle ways by other parts of our mind, other parts like, for example, our ego.

And so...

It's kind of like this therapy speak has like – and this happens.

You can look at any population.

And if you have someone who's like sociopathic or if you have someone who's histrionic or narcissistic and everyone is talking feelings, they will do that too but in a sociopathic way.

Feelings have now started to be used as a form of manipulation, right?

So people will use – like I see this all the time speaking of the internet and its modern incarnation.

We all talk about boundaries, but people have started to use boundaries as a form of control for other human beings.

My boundary is that you don't text anyone after 8 p.m.

My boundary is that every time I call you, you need to answer the phone.