Dr. Alok Kanojia

So it's really bizarre how the basic psychological stuff can hijack, our psychological patterns can hijack all this mental health speak.

Another really good example of this is – so I remember I was seeing an assault victim in the emergency room at Mass General Hospital many years ago.

And so the MIT chief of security was – campus security was there.

And so I was talking to them a little bit about –

Because there were other students with a student who had been assaulted, and they were kind of talking to me about safety.

And I remember something that the MIT chief told me that I've never forgotten.

We were talking about safety, and he's like, my job is not to make people feel safe.

My job is to make people safe.

And there's actually a big difference.

And so something interesting has happened.

We have all become more narcissistic because that's what the internet does to us.

And so now if I am hurt, that is no longer my responsibility.

That is because you did something wrong.

Does that make sense?

Like fundamentally, if I feel hurt, that is oftentimes tied to you doing something wrong.

So there's this tendency towards victimization.

Where you'll see even people who are like playing the victim card, which doesn't mean that we shouldn't be believing victims.

I think that's exactly what happens is we started to realize that we're not taking victims seriously.

But then all the chameleons in our society were looking at this pattern and they were realizing, okay, the fastest way for me to get ahead is to claim to be a victim.

So there are all kinds of weird permutations that are happening right now with this sort of emphasis on feeling.