Dr. Alok Kanojia

He's got three sisters, all older, and a mom.

And what they told him is like, you're the man of the house and you have to provide.

Heavy.

And so he was like, okay, this is what I have to do.

So men do this thing.

It's really interesting.

We do emotional regulation through our environment.

So if my environment makes me feel a certain way, if my mom, dad, brother, sister, boss is upset with me and makes me feel bad, if I make them happy, they will no longer be upset with me.

And if they're no longer upset with me, I will be content.

We shape our internal emotional environment through our external environment.

And the scariest place I see this is when men I work with, and it's not that women, this doesn't happen to women as well.

This is more the way we're socialized and there's an effect of testosterone and estrogen here as well.

This is a biological element to this.

But then they fall into this trap of like their emotions are determined by the environment.

So men are just the way that they solve their internal emotional problems is by interacting with their environment.

That's just very common.

So it doesn't mean that we shouldn't utilize the outside space.

So I'm not suggesting – I mean if you really want to be – if you're pursuing enlightenment, then don't get Aquaria.

But like most of us aren't doing that.

So I think we should utilize – shape our external environment.