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Dr. Alok Kanojia

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Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So this is what's really fascinating.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

People don't realize this, but women are far more likely to initiate divorce.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So I think the interesting statistic about this is you can look at gay couples

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So gay men who get married have less than a 50 percent divorce rate.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

I think they get divorced maybe 30 percent of the time.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

Lesbian couples have the highest divorce rate.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So they get divorced I think something like 60 percent of the time.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So it's even greater than 50 percent.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So I did a lot of work on this because I've had so many patients who when they go through a breakup, like it really ruins their life.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

And there's research on this, okay?

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

I'm not like misogynist or anything like that.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So if you look at qualitative research, if you ask a woman after she goes through a divorce, what did you lose?

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

She will say, I lost a relationship.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

If you ask a man, what did you lose?

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

They say, I lost a life.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So this is just, it's just different.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So-

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

Women will oftentimes form many connections.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

So when they lose their relationship, they lose a relationship.

Huberman Lab
Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia

But men are, by some amount of biology, by some amount of conditioning, by some amount of culture, oftentimes will have one emotional support in their life, which is their wife.