Dr. Alok Kanojia

Absolutely, right?

So this is a key thing to remember is in order for something to be addictive, it needs two things.

It needs to give us pleasure and it needs to take away pain.

And as we see addiction, over time, it shifts away from pleasure into taking away pain.

When we become dependent on something is when we require it to numb ourselves.

So I think we're also seeing more pornography because life for everybody, young people and young men, is getting harder.

So as we become more socially isolated, as we – it's harder to find a girlfriend.

As we get indoctrinated by social media, as we become delusional because of social media, as our social skills atrophy, like all of these things are happening.

It's a pretty bleak picture.

It is bleak.

And I think the reason it's bleak is because we haven't been fighting back in a very focused way.

So part of the reason I've focused so much on relationships, because I'm not a couples therapist, but like what I found is that in my patients,

I could only do so much without having them have a relationship.

You can be depressed, you can be anxious, but if you have a solid relationship, that is one of the most important things.

At some point, I really started focusing on this.

Literally, I was down the street or on the opposite side of town filming a guide about what is the science behind

arousal, activation, how do you flirt?

Like these are the skills, like how do we help people?

I think it's like giving them the skills that we used to learn organically.

Yeah.