Dr. Alok Kanuja (Dr. K)

So if someone actually responds to you, then your nervous system really calms down.

But if they don't respond to you in the right way, there are actually features of things like nausea and like other kinds of, you know, activation.

I'm gonna show y'all.

There are studies that show that there's a lot of like bodily sensations, GI upset, shallow breathing, nausea, headaches, tachycardia.

These are all like, so there's also like a nervous system component.

where it's not just in your head, your body responds by activating adrenaline, activating cortisol, and then that shapes your thinking.

So this, by the way, is a case conceptualization for the development and maintenance of limerence.

Okay, we'll talk about this a little bit more at the end.

So that's what causes it.

I mean, do we know that?

Not really.

So that's why it's like taken me a couple of years.

Right.

So like I read Tenov's book and great book, by the way, highly recommend it if you want to.

Like, it's just the language in it is beautiful.

And then it took me a while to sort of try to figure out, OK, like what's going on here?

What's really like what are the features of this?

How can we understand this from a neuroscience perspective, from a genetic perspective?

Like what's really...

What is this person's experience and how can we break apart and really understand the building blocks of limerence by extrapolating from all of these other illnesses that we know a lot about?