Dr. Alok Kanuja (Dr. K)

A child is obsessed on Christmas Eve, but it's a happy prepossession full of excitement, curiosity, and expectation.

This prepossession is an emotional roller coaster that carries me from the peak of ecstasy to the depths of despair.

and back again so this is what limerence is it is this sudden onset invasion of your mind by something so there's another great paper that sort of describes this as a limer beast so it's sort of like limerence is something that invades you i almost think about it like a werewolf where like you know you're a normal human most of the time

Except when the limerence becomes active.

And once you get invaded by the limer beast, you kind of transform into this werewolf.

Where in your mind you have all of these obsessional thoughts.

You're thinking about this person constantly.

It's not even necessarily sexual in nature, which is a feature of limerence.

But you're fantasizing about this person.

Fantasizing about this person sort of constantly.

being kind to you, this person reciprocating these feelings that you have.

It's such an intense and overwhelming sense of like an obsessional love.

And limerence is something that is incredibly destabilizing for people.

So the weird thing about limerence is that it can strike people who are in a healthy romantic relationship.

So there are people who are married who will like suddenly wake up one day, usually has a small interaction with someone else.

And then like they'll their mind will just be invaded by thoughts of these people.

They're thinking about them all the time, thinking about like, you know, does this person notice me?

Do they like me?

Will they give me?

There's this weird ache that you have that you believe that only this other person can fulfill.