Dr. Alok Kanuja (Dr. K)

You know, tectonic effects on your internal being.

And when you feel uncertain, things become very, very painful.

There's that achiness in your heart, etc.

So the other thing that's really important about limerence is that there is a general intensity of feeling that leaves other concerns in the background.

And so this we got to talk about, too, so that there are other studies that kind of talk about this in a different way.

So limerence also does something called alter the motivational hierarchy of your life.

And this is why I think that the limer beast is such a good description of it.

So if we think about like a normal human life, right, we have like all kinds of things that we're motivated towards.

Like, so I want to do well in my job.

I want to do well in my romantic relationship.

I want to take care of my body.

I want to have fun.

And so we have this like motivational hierarchy.

And the whole problem with limerence is that you have like a life that you are living, which is even like a somewhat arguably normal and complete life.

And the limer beast comes in and alters your motivational hierarchy.

You stop caring about the things that you used to care about, including romantic relationships, spouses, etc.

Like it's wild.

You stop caring about your career as much.

And when we talk about stop caring, you know, if I stop and ask,

ask you when the liver beast is not active, you start caring about those things again.